Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 12/19/2006

Question
To give you a better advice, please tell me  - why 5 out of 10?
because I had to pick her from home and drive her back. We spent almost 4 hrs together...However, she was very relaxed and so she made me very relaxed.
What vibe did you get from her?
I complimented her once: I said u look gorgeous. She replied with a strange manner: 'R u serious?'
How did you handle the direct questions?
I was very frank. I told her that I dated 2 girls b4 but did not manage with them more than 1 month.

And what kind of questions were they?
-were u dating b4? (so she was)
-u look very calm (I told her this is not always the case)
- tell me about urself (I told her about my last 3 years where I spent them abroad)



I have an additional question here: Next week I will have a half a day off (and she will b off too). Wouldn't b nice if we spent the afternoon together? such as a drive to the mountain??

thx


Answer
Hey, Micheal. Thanks for following up. Yes, a drive to the mountains would be fun.

It sounds to me that you are focusing on things that are NOT important  - where to go and what to do. The reality, however, is that what matters is how you come across.

From what I understand, you made several mistakes that you should be aware of and which make you come across as boring. And NOTHING, NOTHING IS worse than coming across as plain and boring.  

First, answering direct questions frankly is a bad move!!! I am not saying it to be harsh on you, but to give you a wake up call. Direct questions are your opporutnity to be funny, sarcastic and otherwise fun - qualities that are essential to demonstrate in order for a woman to be attracted to you.  

In my program "Powerful First Date" I bring some very good examples of the things that guys do wrong and the things that you can do to give a great jump-start to making a woman develop attraction for you. These elements are essential to understand for your success in interacting with women in the future.

Thanks,

Arkady Itkin
www.practicalhappiness.com

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