Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/24/2006

Question
My girlfriend and I have been talking about marraige and all that after we graduate from college in a few years. She calls me yesterday and tells me that she wants to be single for awhile to be herself, because it is her senior year of high school and she wants to be able to go out and not be worried about anything. Which I can understand, it's just that I don't want to lose her forever because I have never loved anyone as much as I love her. How should I deal with this?

Answer
Hello Hunter!

Actually, this is a good idea for BOTH of you! You're just about to begin the greatest period of change you're going to have the rest of your lives. You are NOT going to be the same person after college that you are today - trust me - and neither is she. You may very well find that she's not only different, but that she no longer fits your idea of what you want in your life. This is actually very common.

You are going to meet some really incredible people over the next few years. As to how you should deal with it, be enthusiastic! Look forward to all the new experiences you're about to get. Go to her and say, "You know, I can't think of a better idea than to be single! Let's start today!" Then, start dating every other girl you can find.

This isn't a loss, Hunter - it's an opportunity! You should see it as one and enthusiastically embrace it for the growth experience it's going to be.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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