Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/22/2007

Question
I like this girl very much but i dont think she likes me some times she seems to like me likethose acward times when we meet eyes then we look away some times i think shes trying to make me jealous like last year her and her boyfreind would make out every time they saw me. the reason this case is special is iv'e liked her for 7 years
i have no problem aproaching her (i have asked her out once every 6 months scince middle school) almost all my freinds are girls,and i don't know what to do i can't stop thinking about her. i cant force myself to go out with any one besides her
help

Answer
Hello Aaron!

Here's the reality: you're going to HAVE TO force yourself to go out with other girls if you ever want a chance with her. Whether you ever get to go out with her or not, you're still going to eventually be dating other girls, so my advice is to get to it.

Frankly Aaron, you've blown it completely by hanging in there for 7 years. Worse yet, she's taken complete advantage of you for it! She knows exactly what you want and still just keeps you hanging on as though you ever have a chance with her. As long as she knows you're waiting around in the wings, she never has to do anything (like date you) and thus, you're worth every bit of effort she puts into you - which is nothing.

If you start dating other girls AT LEAST you'll show you have some value. Honestly, I doubt that this will be enough for her to change her mind, but you don't have any other choice. This is the ONLY aspect of control you have - she already owns you and she knows it.

I suggest you go to my website (http://beingaman.com) and watch the short video on "Friends" under "BAM TV". Then, click on "Self Help" and read my FAQ's about friends. You're about to get an education you've avoided for 7 years.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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