Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 11/17/2007

Question
I recently saw an old schoolmate in college from grade school. She is one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen. Since college is busy and i cant drive yet, the only time i see her is at school on fridays for 1 hour. She is the one that calls me and asks if im free or at school to have lunch. I know that sounds like she is interested but when we text, she sometimes refers to me as dude and she one time talked to me about her past relationships and so on. So now i believe she sees me as just a friend. People tell me im a good looking guy and im pretty funny. So how can i let her know im interested and stop going into her friends categort and instead go to possible boyfriends?

Answer
Hello Anthony!

First of all - DON'T DO IT!!!

Don't try to let her know you're interested. The reasoning behind this is that you want her to have to do your work for you so that you take no risks. That's not going to turn her on; and in fact, it'll do the opposite. You've been letting her do all the work so far and trust me, she's probably getting pretty tired of it.

She's been inviting you to lunch so this gives you a great excuse to return the favor. During lunch (or dinner on the weekend), make it a quiet place where just the two of you are together and can get some real face time in. You don't want your buddies - or her buddies - interrupting things.

You're also going to need to "convert" here: kiss this girl already! You don't have to wait for her to know you're interested and no, she's not likely to do it for you. It's your job to move this forward and you'd better get to it if you want any possible future with her!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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