Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 8/26/2006

Question
look im 15 im not the best lookin and im a little heavy (just a little not alot) ok i went out wit this gurl in 7th grade her name was carol she is beautifull and i was way less attractive back then so she went out with me cuz i was nice and she was too well we broke up because of my best friend lied to her well she moved away just before ninth grade and im one of the few people that kept in touch with her she came down over the summer and i went to see her and i thought i had gotten over her but wen i saw her i felt even more strongly about her she went back to michagan last week and i cant stop thinkin about her i want top get back together with her but she thinks of me as more as a friend now i want her to thinnk of me as a boyfriend i realize im only 15 but i think i love her but even if its not love i wanna give us another shot so plz help me win her over

Answer
Hello Taylor

Your looks have very little to do with your success with women. Just because looks are important to you, don't think that women work the same way - they don't.

The big problem you DO have however is the distance. Long-distance relationships never don't work out! Thinking that you can hold a real relationship over the Internet or telephone is just a way to prevent yourself from finding someone local that you CAN have a relationship with.

You're going to have to come to grips with the fact that she's gone. Seeing her every 6 months or so isn't a relationship. On the other hand, you have a bunch of girls right there in your own backyard that you CAN date. Focus on them - you'll be much happier that you did, trust me.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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