Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 1/3/2007

Question
hello:

there is this girl who is in my drivers ed and P.E. class and she is so so sexy. and i think i might really like her if not love her. we talk on myspace and at school all the time and she seems to be into me but she's been hurt by alot of dudes. i've told her my feelins and she always says not right now and we're good at bein friends right now. and another thing is that she said that she's waitin for this dude in Panama that she hasn't seen in like a couple of years. i think she might like me but she doesn't want to get hurt....man i don't know what else to do.

Answer
Hey, Richard. Thanks for your question. One thing you should stop doing FOREVER is telling a girl who doesn't have feelings for you how you feel about her. This puts too much pressure on a girl and usually makes them freak out. Avoid doing it in the future at all costs!  

In this case, instead of convincing her to be with you (which never works), simply spend a certain time with her while showing YOUR ATTRACTIVE QUALITIES  - be interesting, fun, engaging company and don't worry about how she feels abou you. If she develops attraction for you, it will be obvious to you. In the same time, pursue other women so that you don't obssess over this one. I know this sounds tough, but this is the right way to go at your age and situation.

Thanks.

Arakdy Itkin
Author of best-selling audio programs on Approaching, Meeting, and Attracting Women at www.PracticalHappiness.com