Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 9/27/2006

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Thank you Dr. Dennis W. Neder
I think i should move on pluse in Russia there many butiful girls and geneva....What should i do with the car i bought her a porsche should i give it to her just as a remembering gift..i don t relly care about the car .. just because i promised her i don t want to look as if i lied to her..
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hello Dr.Dennis W i have a problem i was going out with a girl in geneva Switzerland for 3 years we were studying togheter.We were leaving togheter for year and a half and then she went back to her country Slovakia and we countinyou having a long distance relationship i went to see her in her country and wherever she went we had our arguments but it was fine .until this june we had a fight and i told her that maybe its better if we brake up ... but then i changed my mind and i didn t.. she broke up with me one week later...sayng that this wont work because she is tiered. her brother comes to geneva on sep and tells me that she has a boyfriend back home for over 3 months now.Her brother studies in geneva now.i haven t spoken to her over 3 months and one night i got drunk and send her a msg that she lied to me that she wasn t tierd but she found some one else and that she lied to me ..she answer me that she didn t..i wrote to her few days a go like a joke msg how are you how is the new boy.. and she answer mr that he is ok but she is confused.. she ask me if there was any girl in my life.. i told her there was only one ... and after she wrote me that she can t have long distance relationship its not about me.. i told her that i am happy for her that she found someone backhome.. she told me not to be happy for her that it freaks her out..i told sher that i still think about her an its hard .. she told me that is hard for her as well and she does nt know how she will react if i find a girl..she told me that she always asks her brother about me ..she cares but its hard.. i don t know what to do i promised her porsche when we were going out and i will give it to her cos i keep my promises .. what should i do with her can i win her bach


Answer -
Hello Georgi!

Frankly, there's almost no chance of winning her back. She's right about the long-distance relationship thing. Unfortunately, these NEVER work out.

Georgi, I know that you're putting everything into this relationship, but sometimes other factors (like distance and other things) work so hard against you that you have to hope of getting what you want.

I'd take for you to spend the next 2-3 years of your life waiting for her when she's not going to change things and come running back to you.

Instead, there are many thousands - perhaps hundreds of thousands - of women right there in your own backyard that you COULD have. Holding out hope on this one doomed relationship is going to prevent you from having something possibly even better. You need to get through all of this, heal and move on.

It's far past time to get started on this, so do it today!

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
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Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"

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Hello again Georgi!

HELL NO! Don't send her the car! You don't owe her anything at this point, and you'll just feel like a jerk if you give it to her. Your original promise was to give the car to your GIRLFRIEND. She's no longer that person and you owe her nothing more than you've already given her. If you don't want it let me know and you can ship it to me instead!  ;)

This is a good time to just drop everything with her. Forgive her for the hurt, get yourself healed and go meet someone twice as great as her that will curl your toes. You deserve it, trust me.

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
President
~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.
Remington Publications
818.334.8826
www.beingaman.com
Publishers of "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II"