Expert: Dr. Dennis W. Neder - 10/31/2007

Question
I told my coworker that I LIKE her. she said why do i like me? I can't answer that qestion. I don't know what to say, we kiss sometimes now she if i don't answer to that question she might stop talking to me. Please help me

Answer
Hello Pirre!

Wait a minute here. Are you saying that she's told you she's going to end things if you don't tell her why you like her? I don't care how much I liked (or even loved) a woman! If she pulled that crap on me, I'd be in the arms of the next - smarter - girl I saw! Further, I'd never look back again because I'd realize this girl is an insecure loser!

If this is just your fear, (in other words, she didn't say this, you're just assuming), don't answer it! You don't have to. It's very difficult to put these sorts of things into words; even for me - and I'm a (so-called) "expert" in these things.

Poets, song writers, authors, actors and everyone else has spent the whole of human history trying to define love; and frankly, nobody gets it exactly right. How can this girl expect you to do that and threaten to leave you if you don't?

Pirre, don't worry about this. If she asks you again, just ask her, "Why does the sun rise in the morning? Why does the drool seep from the lips of the Labrador? Why does a thermos keep hot things hot and cold things cold? I just don't know - and neither do you. Just accept it."

Best regards...

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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