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Expert: Celtica - 8/23/2009


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Hi,I have a 20 yr old son whom I believe to be AS. I work in special ed and am very knowledgable on that subject.the problem is it has turned into severe manic depression.he is soooooo angry, and full of rage.I think,some psychosis at times.I dont know how to help him, and am afraid of his violent outbursts. he only comes out of his room when everyone else is asleep.he never could get a job,or keep a friend,He's tried, and nothing works for him. He is sooo sad,lonely,and angry. Also addicted to porn.Any advice ?should I tell him that he has possible AS?He hates me for trying to help him,wont even look at me.also wont go to a doctor.

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Hi,

sorry again for the delay in responding.

This is very difficult to answer (and even a question I would rather not answer for fear of making things worse). In short, I think you really need professional help with this. If he won't see a doctor, you can. Get advice on how to deal with the situation. A professional will be able to tell you what to do and what not to do when dealing with a person with manic depression much better than I can.

If you think he may become a danger to himself or others, seek help immediately, hospitalize him if necessary (but I think you know that). (I hope I'm not interprating the situation wrong/am overreacting - if so, I'm very sorry...what you write sounds as if he was in much distress).  

I'm not sure if telling him you think he has AS will do any good in the state he's in (if he wasn't so frustrated I would advise you to tell him, but not in his case). To him, it may just feel like another flaw (in his eyes) and not be helpful at all right now.  

Sorry I can't really help you with this. Please get professional help as soon as possible.


C.

Hi Vicki,

I'm just writing to say that I'm going to answer your question during the next few days.
Sorry for the delay.

C.

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Please note I am not a healthcare professional or a doctor.
I cannot provide a diagnosis or give any medical advice.
Therefore I cannot answer questions like "is my child autistic ?" other than by telling you to go and see a specialist
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Please be aware that if you are in the US it will usually take at least 24 hours until I can answer your question, as I'm in Europe and don't have access to my email during the day. I also cannot answer questions concerning the US educational or law system (other than by looking up things on google, but that's probably not the expertise you need), as I'm not in the US.
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Please also be aware that I'm a person with autism. My answers may sometimes be very blunt and direct and I may tell you things you won't like to hear. Diplomacy is certainly not among my talents. I'm never being rude on purpose, and I always try not to hurt or offend people, but it has happened before and may happen again. It's NEVER on purpose. I just want to help.
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What I *can* do for you is gather information on any aspect of autism and therapy of autism you're interested in and give you my personal oppinion about it (if you want to hear it) or, if it applies, tell you about my personal experience. I can answer all questions about what life is like for an autistic person.

I can also answer questions asked in German or French (but will have to answer in English to questions asked in French as my French is a bit rusty).

Ich beantworte gerne auch Fragen auf Deutsch.

Vous pouvez poser des questions en Francais, si cela ne vous dérange pas que je responds en anglais.

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As I'm not doing well right now and am not in the shape of answering questions well - I recieved a few low ratings lately - I'll take a break from AllExperts for the next few weeks/until I'm doing better

I am an adult diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome/High Functioning Autism and ADD.

In the past years I have also read a lot about autism and its comorbid conditions and related subjects (as I am experiencing symptoms of most of these or know others who do) , so I have accumulated a lot of layman knowledge in this area (AD(H)D, Tourette's Syndrome, OCD, sleep disorders, allergies, sensory integration dysfunction, learning difficulties, left/right-brain, giftedness, Irlen Syndrome, prism glasses, executive dysfunction (aka. "inertia"), "special" diets).

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None in the field of autism, apart from being autistic myself !

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