Expert: Catherine Ridenour - 10/7/2011

Question
I just read the question from Laurel about her son who is currently in college and trying to find out what career path he should take.  I am the mom of a very high-functioning Autistic girl (age 14).  She will be attending our local high school in September 2012 and is looking forward to it.  She is somewhat social but doesn't really initiate any socializing - I usually step in to set things up for her.  Sometimes I see anxiety in her when there are things going on that she doesn't understand.  I've approached our doctor about anti-anxiety meds but he feels she isn't a candidate for that at this time.  I am trying to get information about colleges that offer curriculums for students with special needs.  She is very artistic and loves to draw.  We are trying to gear her towards this in high school with taking advantage of the many great art classes offered at our school.  What colleges in the New York City / Northern New Jersey areas offer these types of accommodations?  Is there a particular website that I could obtain this information?  Looking forward to your response.  Thank you,
Marianne

Answer
Hi Marianne,

It is wonderful that you are already looking toward her post high school educational options. Following her passion is the way to go. I recommend you get this book: “Developing Talents: Careers for Individuals with Asperger's Syndrome and High-Functioning Autism” by Temple Grandin, Kate Duffy, and Tony Attwood

I am not networked into the east coast higher education system. I can only do the same internet research you can do. I would start by zeroing in on what is affordable (though, if she excels scholarships may help) and locations. Then, I would start reading the universities websites and making phone calls. Some are very accommodating of autistic individuals' needs and some will only deal with physical limitations.

As to anxiety, keep a close eye on this. The social pressures of high school can be brutal. It is not uncommon for Asperger's and HFA teens to develop depression when they are overwhelmed by the demands of the environment. A mild antidepressant can be very helpful if this occurs.

Encourage her to join the art club in high school. Then, try stepping back,and let her find her way. I firmly believe that when we fix things for your children instead of letting them figure it out, we rob them of vital learning and growth opportunities. Making mistakes, while the consequences are small, is the way be become competent adults.

Her life will always include some challenges, but talent and intelligence can carry her through to success.