Expert: James Michael Roan - 11/9/2007

Question
I have two questions for you.
1. Is it better or worse for an Asperger's child (age 6) to engage in activities that frustrate him so he can learn how to work through his frustration, or should that type of activity be avoided?

2. What are good physical group activities for Asperger's children? Are you aware of specific groups I can contact? I am looking to improve social skills, but he is overwhelmed in large groups.

Answer
Hi Marty;

1. Generally, you want to gently push the window on group activities. You're best to make sure the group size is small. A little frustration is o.k., but learn to look for the red flags for when it becomes too much. He'll learn to find ways to deal with his frustration in time.

2. Pick an activity he enjoys. Most, but not all boys with Asperger's, have gross motor fluency problems and team sports like football, soccer, and basketball are sources of frustration and unhappiness. On the other hand sports like wrestling, swimming, horseback riding work well.

I'm sorry, I do not know of any groups on this subject for you to call. My guess is they are rare and you may have to form your own. Google your state for parent groups or access Asperger's forums. Here is one I am connected with: autism-aspergers@yahoogroups.com

You are right to avoid large groups. Group sports can be an excellent source of friends and self-esteem.

Kind regards,
James