Expert: James Michael Roan - 10/12/2006

Question
Just had my daughter "labeled" PDD-NOS.  We always new something was "special" about her, she saw things differently than the rest of us, does not quite get it.  Where do these kids go when they grow up - she is 17, a Jr. in school and really unable to hold a JOB because so many don't understand her.  Of course kids tease her and she is got that "teen" thing going too - looking for an outlook so that she can be self - sufficient and if she so desires, on her own someday.  Is this even possible.?

Answer
Hi Victoria;

Adolescence is the most difficult time for most people and especially those with Asperger's Syndrome (AS). Very recent research reports that life satisfaction and happiness is greatest for those with a strong family and friendship support system.

Using her special interests she can find a job with low social demand and pressure and as a source for personal accomplishment and self-validation. Having friends and family who understand that, although she may be difficult to deal with or seem aloof at times, that she still needs and wants the love and support from friends and family as much as anyone.

She will do fine in adulthood. She may want to locate a forum on the internet for others with AS her age who she can talk to and who can relate to. There's one in the UK. The MOST important thing is the support from friends and family. Keep an eye out for clinical depression in response to social and emotional challenges.

Kind Regards,
James