Spiritual Awakening, Growth, and Enlightenment/On Happiness & Improving Health


I have dealt with diappointments, and illness of other people my whole life. Now I am recovering from 2 strokes, and I (and my husband) moved my children away from everyone to another state to start over. I feel as if my kids are getting better and happier and my husband but I am suffering. We are renting which I hate, I can barely walk, and we are starting from scratch which the kids love. What is going on? What is my journey in all this, where do I fit in?

Hi Janice - first, I'm so sorry to hear about your current situation, and I appreciate the opportunity to address your concerns.

While there's no instant remedy to the events that are occurring in your life, there are some practical steps you can take that will improve your state of mind and well-being:

1. Live in the moment. When you're fully engaged in the "now" - you will be less preoccupied by concerns about the past and the future.

2. Be grateful. Keeping a daily gratitude journal promotes positive feelings, optimism, life satisfaction, and connectedness with others.

3. Do things for others. Happiness comes most reliably from connecting with others and not being overly self-focused. Try to do things that benefit someone or something other than yourself.

4. Take inventory of your strengths, then apply them in new ways in your daily life. For example, if you count curiosity as a strength, read about a new subject.

5. Savor pleasure. Reminisce about good times, celebrate good moments with others, be happy about what you have accomplished in life.

6. Take responsibility for your health. That means going to your doctor and actually following his or her advice.

7. Apply your personal strengths to your health. If you're a disciplined and organized, you can change your diet and avoid foods that are heavy and difficult to digest; and you can also try to walk as much as possible to improve your circulation.    

8. Be accountable for your changes. You’ll do much better if you track and report your progress to your husband or a friend.

9. Value the changes you make such as sleeping better. Each small change will provide motivation for you to continue making other lifestyle changes.

I hope this advice resonates with you - and please keep in mind that the single most important thing for you to do - is to remove negative thinking and maintain a cheerful disposition and a positive outlook. That may be difficult considering all the issues that you're dealing with right now, but I promise that if you keep your mind focused on all the good things in life - you'll start feeling better immediately.  

I hope this information is helpful for you and wish you and your husband all the best.


Bob Waxman, Ph.D.  

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Please ask any question relating to spiritual awakening, personal growth, or the pursuit of enlightenment. If you are having difficulty with a religious or spiritual concept - please feel free to explain your dilemma and ask a question relating to your situation. I have written three books on various on "The Timeless Wisdom of the Ages" and have been teaching classes related to universal spiritual principles for over 15 years. My expertise is in writing, teaching, and explaining the underlying meanings that are found in ancient and modern spiritual/religious traditions.


Classes, seminars, and workshops over the past 15 years include explorations of: spiritually transformative experiences (STEs), near-death experiences (NDEs), Vedanta & Bhagavad Gita, Kabbalah & Zohar (according to scholars), The Best of Plato, The Taoist Approach to Living, The Dhammapada & Mahayana Buddhism, Cognitive Dissonance, Lost Books of the Bible, Comparative Views on Sufism & Gnosticism, Cutting-Edge Theories in Modern Physics & Metaphysical Frameworks in Ancient Mysticism. Published Books include: "2012: The Meaning and The Message" - Paragon House Publishers,"Kabbalah Simply Stated" - Paragon House Publishers, "The Power of AWE" - Sinclair Publishing, Inc., Not yet released: "By the Waters of Forgetfulness - The Mystical Teachings of Plato."

Founding Member and frequent guest speaker at The Open Center (Sarasota, FL) Longboat Key Education Center IANDS (near-death experience organization) Unity Life Enrichment Center American Seminar Leaders Association

Articles: "Did Freud Accept or Reject Mysticism?" http://ezinearticles.com/?Did-Freud-Accept-Or-Reject-Mysticism?&id=1291492 ## "The Astral Body and After Death Experience" http://www.paratracker.org/files/article-20660.pdf ## "Beyond Madonna" http://www.articlecity.com/articles/religion/article_303.shtml ## "Beyond The DaVinci Code" http://www.articlecity.com/articles/religion/article_306.shtml ## "Evolutionary Theism" http://www.robertwaxman.com/id86.html ## "Five Philosophers' Theories on Free Will" http://www.robertwaxman.com/id93.html ## "The Transpersonal Experience" http://www.robertwaxman.com/id77.html ## "John Locke & Deism During The Age of Enlightenment" http://www.robertwaxman.com/id77.html ## "The Nature of the Tzaddik" http://robertwaxman.org/id50.html ## Interview in Spirit Guide Magazine (2009): http://robertwaxman.org/id51.html ## A Theistic View on the Unitary Experience in Shamanism http://www.robertwaxman.com/id92.html

Ph.D. in Human Sciences from Saybrook University; Master's Degree with a concentration in Comparative Religion from Skidmore College; (2) B.A.'a from The American University. Additional philosophy courses taken at Columbia University and New York University.

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Unity of Sarasota JCC of Sarasota, Tampa, Davie, West Palm Beach & Bonyton Beach Center for Positive Living Theosophical Society United Lodge of Theosophists (Sarasota, FL) The Open Center Longboat Key Education Center Hundreds of students over the last 12 years

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