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| frusterated | 11/19/2009 | Robert Rubel |
Q: my wife has a submissive personalty she likes to be tied up and is into light BDSM ...but we are ...
A: Sean, All relationships are different. What works for you and your partner is what works. What ...
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| please suggest some severe punishment methods | 11/19/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: ... I am a married lady of age 25. My husband's age is also the same. We are living in India. I am a ...
A: Hot sauce won't injure him permanently but it is quite severe. As long as he does not swallow feces ...
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| Punishment rubrics/Appropriate punishments | 11/18/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: I'm new to the group and new to the community. I'm a male Dom and up until now I have tried to stay ...
A: Sir, First off how is it getting tougher? I am not sure I understand what your needing? Is it that ...
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| Confused submissive married to vanilla man | 11/16/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: Greetings Sir, i hope that You are well. i stumbled upon Your profile while seeking answers for my ...
A: have you told your husband? Does he know about the lifestyle? First you need to be honest with ...
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| please suggest some severe punishment methods | 11/16/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: ... I am a married lady of age 25. My husband's age is also the same. We are living in India. I am a ...
A: You are already a bit in the extreme and if you keep up the way you are going, he will learn to ...
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| My boyfriend is into BDSM and i am not. | 11/16/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: Ive been dating this guy for about a month, and when he mentioned BDSM ( on the very first few ...
A: If he's hard-wired into it as are most, you can save yourself a lot of grief by ending the ...
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| picking a punishment | 11/11/2009 | Eirene Nayar |
Q: I am new to D/s. I have met with my Master once....for a playdate a while back...like 6 months ago. ...
A: You do not mention if this is to be a "play" punishment or a very real punishment. If something ...
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| im trying to find a female submissive. | 11/9/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: i am a female switch and i am trying to fine myself a female submissive. i have a Master and i have ...
A: you might wish to try theses www.collarme.com www.fetlife.com i wish you luck, I do not know more ...
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| Cutting | 11/8/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: I have been thinking of experimenting with cutting, well I want to. However never having done this ...
A: Tanning "leatherizes" the skin which makes it less supple and more prone to damage. You can put ...
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| Domme and vanilla partner | 11/8/2009 | Lady Aryana |
Q: Good morning Lady Aryana, I'm 49, very vanilla, very Alpha male, involved with an East Indian woman ...
A: Graham, This is a hard one, not cause its something that causes issues but it really comes down to ...
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| girlfriend not into bdsm lifestle | 11/7/2009 | Eirene Nayar |
Q: so I've been exploring the bdsm scene for a few years now, started out with biting and spanking, but ...
A: I suggest first of all you need to decide how important the BDSM lifestyle is to you. Is it just ...
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| Gorean lifestyle | 11/7/2009 | Lady Aryana |
Q: Lady Aryana, Hello SIR and I are starting to go down the path of living the Gorean life and I am ...
A: lori, First off let me suggest you and your *Sir* do some real soul searching before deciding to ...
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| Guilt | 11/7/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: i have written a couple of questions to you before and your advice has been helpful. i am new to the ...
A: okay, in my book he can always masturbate all on his own. I do not think it was right to make you ...
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| Cutting | 11/6/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: I have been thinking of experimenting with cutting, well I want to. However never having done this ...
A: You allow her to tan? Use of a surgical scalpel will definitely minimize scarring because the blade ...
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| needles | 11/6/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: I spent two days looking for you, someone that is qualified to give me advice :) I am relatively ...
A: Stay FAR away from the spine. You can leave the needles in place for pretty much as long as you feel ...
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| needles | 11/6/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: I spent two days looking for you, someone that is qualified to give me advice :) I am relatively ...
A: You should really be using sterile hypodermic needles that come in SIZES that increase pain rather ...
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| Top drop | 11/5/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: I have been involved in a D/s relationship for 5 years. It has been extremely rewarding in a ...
A: Sometimes life just gets to busy and the Dom caring so much on his plate just needs a brake from it ...
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| Lost | 11/5/2009 | Lady Aryana |
Q: This question is going to be hard for me to write simply because it's difficult for me to explain ...
A: Sara, Sounds like you need to start journal your thoughts and feelings, allowing him to read them, ...
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| Roles | 11/5/2009 | Lady Aryana |
Q: What is the difference between a Domme, Mistress and Mommy?
A: kimberly, That is kinda one of those questions where it depends on what setting you are talking ...
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| Sub/Slave | 11/4/2009 | Lady Aryana |
Q: I have an online relationship with a Dom and he has started to mention meeting up. He says that I ...
A: Chris, First off, you need to sit and talk to your Dom and ask him the same thing you just asked ...
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| help !!!!! | 11/4/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: what should i do my wife has ben a sub 4 years!!! i am new to this she wants to be a slave slut in ...
A: I would say to set up your rules, how and when you wish her to do things for you. Work with her on ...
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| advice | 11/4/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: .seems to be that i am getting a girl here soon who calls herself a sub but refers to me online as ...
A: not sure what to tell you, and as to her calling you Master...well subs use that term as well. This ...
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| master slave relations | 11/3/2009 | Robert Rubel |
Q: my wife has ben a submissive for years!!! i am new to bdsm so i dont understand she wants to be a ...
A: Hmmm Please correct me if I'm wrong, but this sounds as though she wants to do Master/slave ...
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| Unsure about a lot | 11/1/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: this really isn't about BDSM but about ABDL. I'm sorry to ask it here but you seem to be the only ...
A: well I would go out with him and then deal with the issues directly. Giving it a try might be the ...
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| newbie | 11/1/2009 | Eirene Nayar |
Q: Recently met a Dom who is married, wife is vanilla. He introduced me to the sub lifestlye. Realized ...
A: First of all welcome into a lifestyle that has so many rewards in store for you as you continue. No ...
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| How to find a slavegirl | 10/31/2009 | ziggy ziegler |
Q: What is the best way for me to find a beautiful slavegirl aged between 19 and 25? I'm looking to ...
A: Matthew Create a profile on collarme.com, alt.com, bondage.com, and fetlife.com.. they are all ...
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| New Sub needing guidance | 10/28/2009 | Eirene Nayar |
Q: I am completely new to this entire world. My Master, is someone that I trust 100%, so that is the ...
A: You leave out so much that it is hard for me to answer specifically. You do not mention what the ...
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| sub- slave | 10/27/2009 | Oscar G. |
Q: I was very much interested in becoming a slave to dominant mistress. The problem is that i am ...
A: Since you have internet access, it would be better for you for people who are already in a lady that ...
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| Sub drop help !!! | 10/26/2009 | Mistress Violette |
Q: I really need some advice. I have just come back to the BDSM scence after a few years abscence, i ...
A: Annabel, This doesn't sound like sub drop to me. It seems more like the after effects of trauma. ...
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| Mental Dominance | 10/24/2009 | Lady Aryana |
Q: Greetings, I am currently involved in a long-distance relationship that has bondage aspects as well ...
A: John, First off, remember that during these times, anything that you have her do for you, be it ...
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| dealing with a break-up | 10/24/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: About 10 months ago I entered my first bdsm relationship as a sub - with my then boyfriend of ...
A: I would say to stop pushing it give him the time that he needs...work on things together, and see ...
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| Rosebud Sounds | 10/23/2009 | CougarDomme |
Q: I have some experience with Van Buren sounds and catheters for cath play. I read some glowing ...
A: It's a technique that they teach people that complete an MSN degree--like I did. I give demos at ...
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| Wife wants to explore with another man... | 10/23/2009 | ziggy ziegler |
Q: My wife has recently revealed to me that she wants to explore bdsm with someone else. She has been ...
A: I would like to begin by saying that the root of what we do in BDSM or Dominance and submission is ...
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| Over-reaction? | 10/23/2009 | Mistress Violette |
Q: I feel that my problem is somewhat complex but will try to keep it simple. I am a gay submissive ...
A: Brad, You're not at all paranoid; this isn't what it's supposed to be like. The watchwords in BDSM ...
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| His or mine? | 10/23/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: My Dom and i were talking on the phone the other day and because W/we are trying to get me moved the ...
A: yes you can have a contract that keeps your money as yours. And only a slave has that to worry ...
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| D/S relationship is not the same as it was | 10/22/2009 | Eirene Nayar |
Q: I hope I am asking the correct person, and if I haven't, I apologize. Currently I am a submissive ...
A: The first thing I want to say is I am so sorry you are hurting this way. A healthy D/s relationship ...
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| Becoming a Mistress | 10/21/2009 | Lady Aryana |
Q: I'm rather new to the bdsm scene and have come into possession of a male sub who has recently ...
A: Anna, First take a deep breath, your going to need it... We all go through this phase when we first ...
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| Poly | 10/16/2009 | awhitecloud |
Q: i am in a D/s online relationship right now, W/we are going to go real life soon. He has been open ...
A: poly is not for e everyone. And he should never be upset if you can not get into it. As a sub you ...
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| girlfriend into dominatrix | 10/16/2009 | Master Shadow |
Q: yeah my gf doesnt like it when i do that to her, but when she does it to me i just love it, but she ...
A: I'd say it's time for some serious conversation, to find out EXACTLY what each of Y/you like and ...
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| training sub | 10/14/2009 | Oscar G. |
Q: .possibly will have a sub female here. could you give Me some workable ideas on how to break her in ...
A: Training and "breaking" is a relative concept. It is based on her willingness to go along with your ...
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