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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Daddy/little girl relationship | 2/3/2012 | Phoenix Master |
| Q: I've been an active submissive since 2005. I've been trying to get my fiance interested in the D/s ... A: Greetings Kai, I have worked in the mental health system for well over ten years plus. I can’t say ... | ||
| Need to learn fast | 1/31/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: I have an old girlfriend who has been in the life for a while, she is a slave, and desperately wants ... A: Continuation... Dominance is as much an act of the mind as anything physical. You must first can ... | ||
| help | 1/30/2012 | Master Shadow |
| Q: hi master shadow i have recently recieved a slave as a gift he is 16 and im 36 he is perfec however ... A: I would start by gaining his trust. Long talks without judgement would seem in order. Find out as ... | ||
| how do I introduce my husband to D/s? | 1/28/2012 | Master Shadow |
| Q: I have been married to a wonderful man for 14 years and I'm finally gathering up the courage to ask ... A: First, please excuse the lateness of this answer. I have given this much thought over the past few ... | ||
| Long distance D/s woes | 1/27/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: I am currently in a long distance relationship with a beautiful girl in the UK. She is very much ... A: Dusty Sorry to hear about your woes. I however, feel it sounds more like love and romance than ... | ||
| my Master and i have broken up | 1/27/2012 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: .. please help if possible.. my only M/s realationship has ended..this may sound pathetic but im ... A: Pardon the delay; was out of town this weekend. I understand the struggle and the trauma. M/s ... | ||
| advice for a novice…Domme? Switch? | 1/19/2012 | Miss-L |
| Q: I have recently begun exploring what has been a long-held fantasy for me. Something about BDSM has ... A: I'm always glad when I see people stepping into the BDSM scene with the desire to educate ... | ||
| collar | 1/16/2012 | Miss-L |
| Q: ,,not too sure if this is for reazl...but..well...let's give it a try. I am in Dom/sub relation ... A: "I know he is married and I don't care about that." If you aren't bothered by the fact that he is ... | ||
| Help Needed | 1/12/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: I have been involved with a wonderful dom for about a year and a half now. He is married and much ... A: diane: You love the man, and can not be open and honest wit him...That is neither love nor ... | ||
| Learning BDSM | 1/11/2012 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: Through my past sexual experiences I've discovered that I'm very submissive and like pain and what ... A: Liss -- I'm 67. To hear you say that you have had very little facetime with him and it's an ... | ||
| More intense abuse ideas | 1/11/2012 | extremeslave jack (577-573-966) |
| Q: Many thanks for your helpful and thoughtful answers a few months ago, just as i was embarking on a ... A: Great to hear from you again. I am very happy to know that all is well. I am proud of you. You have ... | ||
| one more question | 1/9/2012 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: rubel, My wife and i have recently decided to take our relationship into the direction of bdsm. she ... A: First, either you are in charge or she is in charge. If you are in charge and ask her to reveal ... | ||
| please add me to your notifications list | 1/8/2012 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: rubel, My wife and i have recently decided to take our relationship into the direction of bdsm. she ... A: Keith... If you'll send me an email to PowerExchangeEditor@yahoo.com I'll send you a list of ... | ||
| Confused | 1/7/2012 | awhitecloud |
| Q: Omg, I gave u the wrong email the first time so someone out in this world is going to get a a ... A: Okay your English is just fine....And secondly I am not a Sir I am a female sub, but it is okay I am ... | ||
| Confused | 1/7/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: Omg, I gave u the wrong email the first time so someone out in this world is going to get a a ... A: Josée, il est tout à fait bien ... Il semble que nous sommes à nouveau cibler certaines questions ... | ||
| Confused | 1/7/2012 | Miss-L |
| Q: I am confused about what am feeling, I am with my master long distance we are not online because we ... A: Two red flags go up immediately after reading your question. 1) You describe yourself as "young" ... | ||
| Rules for a D/S Long Distance Relationship | 1/7/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: I have started a new relationship with a girl that is completely sub. We have started into some d/s ... A: Scott I am not sure of your location or who does the travel or how the meetings are organized. But ... | ||
| Rules for a D/S Long Distance Relationship | 1/6/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: I have started a new relationship with a girl that is completely sub. We have started into some d/s ... A: Scott Domming is a lifetime activity and we all learn every day, do not be afraid of the fact you ... | ||
| VERY confused and sad | 1/5/2012 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: I am so fed up with D/s at the moment that I am thinking about quitting it and never going back. I ... A: I'm not sure that you'll like my answer. As preface, I'm 67 and have been in a Master/slave ... | ||
| Settling into our roles | 1/5/2012 | Mistress Violette |
| Q: I began my journey in BDSM as a submissive girl. I used to always believe it came naturally to me. ... A: Rebbecca, It sounds like you're right in your belief that others may have influenced you toward ... | ||
| Young & Age Difference? | 1/4/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: So, i've been interested in the lifestyle since i was about 12. Well, unknowingly since i was a lot ... A: claire I suppose I should admonish you and what not but the truth of the matter, is that as we ... | ||
| Young & Age Difference? | 1/4/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: So, i've been interested in the lifestyle since i was about 12. Well, unknowingly since i was a lot ... A: claire: Age is a function of maturity not the other way around. If you are comfortable and can make ... | ||
| pain to pleasure | 1/3/2012 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: It is a 24/7 owned and collared slave that is having trouble turning the pain into pleasure, can you ... A: dannii Pain is always the flip side of pleasure, the problem may well be not that you can not ... | ||
| Choosing a Slave Name | 12/30/2011 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have recently decided to become involved in a M/s relationship, and we are fairly ... A: Ah, okay. Got it, thanks for writing back. My second wife was so mad at her ex that she decided to ... | ||
| sub searching for answers | 12/28/2011 | awhitecloud |
| Q: I'm not real sure were to start except by saying all my life I knew I was missing something that I ... A: yes learning about yourself can be a long journey, but one that will allow you to grow and to learn ... | ||
| advice | 12/27/2011 | extremeslave jack (577-573-966) |
| Q: i am a body slave my master had not touched me. we had some issue that by the help of one of experts ... A: Slave Liam Your question is not clear. In fact, there is no question in your text. However, I think ... | ||
| Choosing a Slave Name | 12/26/2011 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have recently decided to become involved in a M/s relationship, and we are fairly ... A: Crystal, or is it slave crystal? The very fact that he's asked you to name yourself suggests that ... | ||
| advice | 12/25/2011 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: i am a body slave my master bought me and my contract coast him a lot and i have been with him for a ... A: slave liam, There are a number of "answers" to your question, but -- unfortunately -- they either ... | ||
| Someone may be taking this too far | 12/20/2011 | Miss-L |
| Q: I am not asking a question per se, but trying to raise awareness to something which I found ... A: I've read your question carefully. Honestly I can say this is a matter of opinion on whether you ... | ||
| can a master &I slave both be married to other people &I make it work? | 12/19/2011 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: My master is married as well. Neither of our spouses are aware of our m/s relationship. We both want ... A: Ack! Well, I know of a stable structure here in Austin where Master and slave are married to ... | ||
| sub searching for answers | 12/16/2011 | awhitecloud |
| Q: I'm not real sure were to start except by saying all my life I knew I was missing something that I ... A: Please forgive me for the delay, as I was out of town. You sometimes are scared of what deep inside ... | ||
| alcohol | 12/16/2011 | extremeslave jack (577-573-966) |
| Q: I am a sub and my girlfriend and i early have sex because she us too last. When we do have sex she ... A: Your dominant partner IS an alcoholic and needs proper treatment as soon as possible. As soon as she ... | ||
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 | XR |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: You're going to be married to him for a long time presumably. Don't tell me what you want. Tell him ... | ||
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: julie: Weird, yes, too weird NO! I have lived this lifestyle my whole adult existence and so ... | ||
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: I think you're looking for what are called "scenes". In the world of BDSM (bondage, discipline, ... | ||
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 | CC |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: It is true that not all fetishes are embraces by everyone. Some are embraced while others are ... | ||
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 | extremeslave jack (577-573-966) |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: Respected MS. Julie 1. Your fantasy is perfectly normal. To feel sexually and emotionally fulfilled ... | ||
| I Want My Husband To Piss On Me | 12/15/2011 | awhitecloud |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for quite a while now and we have a very healthy sex life. ... A: Julie, Okay from a sub's standpoint I do not think this is strange at all I find it exciting. That ... | ||
| Submission to husband and others | 12/14/2011 | Robert Rubel |
| Q: I have always been interested in being dominated by men. It started out in High School when I dated ... A: Wow! You're an absolutely 1000% ideal candidate for the world I live in, the world of BDSM with its ... | ||
| Educated slave not so educated Master. | 12/13/2011 | Master Nanuck |
| Q: I was hoping to get some advice and I'm not sure who else to go to at this point. Basically my ... A: kay You are right, this relationship differs by couple or group. And being new at this; well he ... | ||
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Robert Rubel
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Expertise
Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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