Expert: Oscar G. - 1/23/2008

Question
i was invovled with the lifestyle for some time now i am deeply in love with a vanella woman and i am trying to explain to her about my past relationship i had a guardian who owned a slave i was very close with,  then i was under consideration by a female dominant and trying to explain the role of a guardian and how and why she interacted with domme considering me and she says it all sounds like bull shit as if i am lying.  please explain the purpose of a guardian and the lack of physical relation and there role in a way she will understand so it can go away,  its causing a major rift in our relationship to the point where i swear i would feel better if she just beat the crap out of me and called me a liar that would be easier than this

thankyou so much
alex

Answer
I am not sure about the whole story and how it relates to her, another domme and the guardian. But I will gladly give you a definition of what a Guardian is in BDSM circles and what it means.
A guardian or also called a Mentor in BDSM  circles means it is a person of some experience and standing within the BDSM lifestyle, who happen to take the role of teacher and advisor in a non-physical context. Meaning they do not  play with their charges and the person they guard, and they do not let other people play with them for being under their care during that time that person is a guardian.
It is a caring bond of respect and mutual understanding. But where a deeper relationship never goes to intimate levels, either physically or spiritually.
A Guardian/Mentor teaches the pupil/slave-in-training or consideration. The rituals, background, story, finer points, protocol and rules of BDSM according to their  experience, style and type of school. But all in a non-sexual manner.   
You are welcome to ask any other expert, and you will come with a very similar response, albeit not exactly the same, since there are always variation  in styles and rules. But as a general rule  Mentors and Guardians are not sexually involved with their charges and they protect and shield their people from other sexual predators even, while in their charge.

I hope this helps.
Be well and take care.
Oscar G.