Expert: XR - 1/13/2008

Question
I recently started dating someone. Last night he told me it was time for me to experience what turns him on. I had no idea what that meant. I am recently divorced and have never used any sex toys.
He told me that I needed to start wearing a butt plug. He inserted it last night, and it kept sleeping out. This made him very angry. What do I need to do to keep the plug in?

Answer
I don't know the exact plug you were using and how it's shaped which can have a lot to do with how it stays in. A butt plug harness would work though, like this one: http://www.extremerestraints.com/female-butt-plug-and-dildo-harness_1295.html

 However, I don't know your anal experience, but just having a plug inserted with no prior experience and then being told that you have to keep it in seems a bit abrupt. You might try a metal plug like this: http://www.extremerestraints.com/njoy-steel-butt-plugs_1584.html
and work at holding it in.
 You say that he's getting angry about something that you just started doing. I'm supposed to be giving gear advice, but your relationship sounds unhealthy. Unless being told what to do and being submissive is your thing, the whole deal sounds bad. You don't want to do anything in a relationship because the other person gets angry if you don't. Unless this is a consenting master/slave or dominant/submissive relationship I would reevaluate whether you need a butt plug harness or a new relationship.