Expert: awhitecloud - 10/28/2008

Question
I have known my Master for a number of months now. Its been well over a year since my submission to him has been complete. Juring our time together we have confirmed there have been other slaves in both our lives. Before meeting him I had not wanted to submit to a Master. I have always been the dominant one. When the submission became complete, we found that he was at my feet and not vise versa.  We had let go of my slaves but the dominant side has always wanted to take another. It became such, that the Master had become my slave. A few short months ago, I have moved in with him. In that time I found out that he was still in contact with his slave. He immediately stopped all contact with her. Since then, I have shyed away from using him as my slave. I love him a lot and can feel the dominant side in me stirring. I dont want to be his slave anymore. I want to be his Mistress. I know he can sense this and is urging the dominence in me to come out. How can I get past the hurt? We had promised eachother there would be no other. Then I found out there was. I know he loves me, but Ive lost my way and am looking for the path that will lead me back to him. Its my stubborness that puts up these walls and I need to know how to break them down. I'm looking for some guidance. As much as he and I have discussed this, I think I need to hear it from someone else. Should I let loose my Dominant side and give in to his begging? I'm lost and can feel my true nature screaming to get out.

Answer
First off you can not get past the hurt until you both sit down and talk about it and you are able to deal with what happen.

And because he was a Dom to another you could not have him as your sub?  And if it stopped with him talking to another why did you not talk it out and then take over where you where to be?  Sometimes you need to talk things out and then be able to forgive and forget.

Well if you are a slave no why is your Master not helping you to brake down the walls and deal with the issues at hand?  I am just lost here on this one is all. Communication is the key to everything and it does not sound like you guys talked about this you found out he ended it and you put up walls and just left it un-dealt with?

Well you both need to deal with it together. I do not know it all I only have what you gave me to go on, and I would be more then happy to talk with you more on this should you wish to.

Best of luck

awhitecloud