Expert: awhitecloud - 10/17/2008

Question
Just some background on Master and i. my Master/hubby and i have been married almost 2 years but together almost 5 years. W/we are raising his 3 daughters.  W/we met online and knew Master was dominant and i was submissive. Being with the kids all the time this is hard. W/we have been through a lot together and even though Master works his butt off the money he makes compares nothing to what i make owning my little internet company and working from home. i never say anything to him about that. It wouldnt be right and the money doesnt bother me. i give my Master my all and love doing it for him. Master is a bit of a selfish Master in ways but i know he does love me and He has proven so many times. This slave knows that a lot of things Master does isnt right and that he only gives me what i need as a slave when i bring it to his attention and he usually ends up mad at me but i dont argue with him. Master neither listens to me or tries to understand a slaves feelings. Its all about him all the time. This slave is doing her best to be patient and wait. (He is dealing with ALOT at work right now) Dont get me wrong there's times he does try. Just not often. i dont even know what i am asking. i am confused, hurt and beginning to get angry. i love my Master with all my heart and his kids too. But i am a slave and slaves have needs. Ive read that if you treat a slave wrong it could ruin her. please can you help me find someway to help my Master see what he is doing to me?

Answer
First off I would find out if there are munches in your area, and make it a point to get you both attending them.  Being around other like minded people can help you both a lot.

And do you have friends that are in the lifestyle?  If so start doing things with them, and it will help to lead you.  Maybe you just need to sit back and well ask him for permission to sit and read to him one evening before bed.  Start writing a journal and read from it to him.  Allow him to hear in a different frame of mind where you are. write him letters even.  You need to start communicating and that is both of you.  There has to be at least 20 min in each and every day where he can give it to you and you to him?

Your not in an easy place right now and one I can understand, but please try to do what ever to communicate to him.  If you need more help or just want to talk well write be back and hit the private box and I will give you my info so you may reach me.

Good luck be strong and hang in there,

awhitecloud