Expert: Master Shadow - 10/5/2008

Question
I have been in the lifestyle for 8 years but until a year or so ago started exploring more of the Domme side.  I have a new sub and he is great.  He is married and is wife knows he is exploring this lifestyle but doesn't want to know the details.  I understand and respect that.  My question is this.  I am more into the sadistic side and he is not much into pain.  To me, thats what this is all about.  His wife also agreed to this if there are no marks.  We are taking it slow but how can I do more without leaving marks?  Is this only a kinky vanilla relationship?


Answer
Paddles (Used moderately, but repeatedly, until the ass is bright red), and real light "sting" type floggers (Make SURE You know how to use the toyz properly!) work well, usually. I have had great success with the leather boot laces, the 48" one's, made into floggers, and used moderately. CBT also comes to mind, using such things as clothes pins (The spring kind), as well as really light flogging with latigo strip floggers, which can also be made at home.

Clothespins can also be used on the nipples and breasts, as well as other areas agreed on by both parties. DO NOT leave the clothespins on longer than 15 minutes, and always remember to massage the area briskly after the clip is removed. It promotes circulation, as well as causing more pain, always a perk, in my opinion.

In the longrun, You will need another slave, a pain slut, either experienced, or novice who can be trained by You. Otherwise, You will want to do more than he can handle, and more than his wife will agree to, leaving everybody unhappy.

This does not in any way imply that You cannot continue with him in the meantime, or even after getting another slave. This way, You could use both together during scenes.

Best of luck in Your Journey.



                     
                                            SINcerely in Leather,
                                            Master Shadow.