Expert: Master Shadow - 10/20/2008

Question
QUESTION: Do you have any suggestions for punishing a non-masochistic submissive?

ANSWER: There are many ways to punish a non masochistic slave. The worst, in my opinion is the silent treatment, which I have had to use only once. I ignored my slave entirely for three days. She still knelt, and did all the things she normally does. It's just that I would not acknowledge her at all, and refused to allow her to touch me. This was hard on both of U/us, but necessary at the time.

Realize, when I speak of punishment, I do NOT speak of play punishments, or scening, but actual painful correction to stop unwanted behavior. In My House, there is no play punishments, and in my opinion, the two should never be interchanged.

There are other ways as well, including denial of computer time, denial of tv and radio, favorite foods and drinks. Much of it depends on the severity of the infraction, and should always be something that fits the crime, so to speak.

I hope this helps.


         SINcerely in Leather,
         Master Shadow.


---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: I apologize for my lack of clarity, we aren't D/s out of scene, so it didn't occur to me to make the distinction. I was actually wondering about in-scene punishments. Sorry for the confusion, thank you for your time.
- Gaia

Answer
Actually, in scene "punishments" are NOT punishments, but rather scening. In my opinion, it is important to keep the two separate. This prevents confusion later on as to whether, in the sub's mind, they were scened, or punished.

In the case You are talking about, I would use the sub/slave's soft limits as a part of the scene, but not in EVERY scene. One of the things that can happen is that You will run out of ideas, and both of Y/you start making the scenes more and more extreme, until a dangerous situation can happen. You will wind up trying more and more things that are beyond edge play in order to keep things exciting.

I would suggest things like sensual knife play (Not cutting) as the so called punishment, or threat of "punishment" for the scene. Also, see if things like LIGHT paddling can be added to the scenes.

Is there a list of hard and soft limits available? If so, start pushing these soft limits, little by little, pushing harder and harder on the soft limits the slave/sub has trouble with.

Fear play is also a way of making the scenes more exciting.

I hope this helps some. Remember, the mind is what You are actually scening. It is the most sensual organ on the human body.



         SINcerely in Leather,
         Master Shadow.