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Expert: - 10/13/2008


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OK- long story short- I have been asking my husband to dominate me for 3 years. I wasn't very specific at first but after a while thought he didn't know what I wanted. I became more specific and he became less interested. I have now stopped talking to him about it. I have however started talking to a Dom and started a relationship with him. My husband will always be my number one. My Dom understands that. (he is married as well)My question is; do I let my husband in on this secret. I hate lieing. Or do I leave him in his ignorance and happiness?

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You should never hide anything at all from your husband that is just wrong but then that is just my view on it.

Have you thought maybe about getting him together with other Dom's, and attending munches and things so that he can have a better understanding of what a Dom is and what they should do?  Maybe the things that you needed from him in being a Dom are things he has a problem with?  

You need to talk on this and help him to understand what all being a Dom is and that it is okay to have up and down days, maybe he just wants to be a Dom for now like 2 days a week.  It is just like having another full time job to have a sub full time and a lot of work as well effort.

But yes be honest with him and never lie to your Dom or to your husband.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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