Expert: Oscar G. - 10/11/2008

Question
I met this girl last month, her name is Shelby, she has blue eye's, red hair. I am her master now. Recentlly she started working at miran vista senior living and beleives it's okay to ignore my rules. She even pushed me away when I tried to grab her. Is there a way to teach her to respect me? I have even resorted to hard spanking and it only makes her worse.

Answer
Dear Josh:

You call yourself her master, bust did she agree to become your slave?
Was there a written or agreed upon contract to which both of you sat down and laid out rules to agree upon mutually before accepting each other's roles and  rules, as well as responsibilities?

Also a month is too short a time to find out if she suitable material to be a slave, submissive or even compatible as a lover. Is she aware of all the rules? did you explain them before hand?  Was the rule she broke necessary because of her work? or just to spite you?

My point is this: You may want her to be be your slave and follow your rules. However, did she agree to be that? was she aware of everything it entails? Does she know that being a slave is also outside the bedroom or you assumed it would also be like that in the outside world?

You cannot force people to respect you. Doing forced stuff creates resentment and fear, not respect. Understanding and  teaching properly does the job, and the reason why you lay out rules out and how they work would do more toward helping her understand her role and agree to it than anything else. They are not mind readers and neither are you. Communication is essential and it goes both ways.
Find out of she  knows her role or not and does she want it or not.
Otherwise you cannot force anyone to respect you if you cannot respect their needs, desires and wants as well as their motivations and reasons.

I hope this  helps. Best wishes.
Oscar G.