Expert: awhitecloud - 10/30/2008

Question
Ok so here is some back ground info. Im a sub and so if my live in boyfriend. For the last 4 years we have struggled with out relationship sexually because though he stays hes a switch hes full of crap. giggles. I am more of a switch then him since I have such a strong personality. So recently I have caved and become his Domme. Now he does all the things I wish he would do to me.
We have talked about finding someone to Domme the both of us. Im bi and hes bi curious so either gender would be ok.
So the question is: Where do I start? How do I find one. I mean we are in NYC and there should be tons of them running around, right? But we both are young (mid 20s) and dont want some creepy person telling us what to do. Its a safety concern of ours. We both have spent alot of time and money into our toy chest and our sexual lifestyle and really want someone who will take the time to get to know us. At this rate I dont mind being his Domme if I had someone of my own.

Answer
I would first off say that you might want to join some on line group where you can find others in the lifestyle one I know of is www.fetlife.com

Then find area munches and such to start attending and get to know others in your area.  Post personal adds and meet others on like www.collarme.com and see what you can find and keep working to grow together and find others.

Poly is not for everyone but you can see where it might take you both.  Communicate with each other and make sure you keep talking all the time.

I hope that this helps some, and sorry for my delay as right now time is hard to come by for me.

Thank you and the best of luck,

awhitecloud