Expert: arani_CsA - 11/18/2008

Question
On Friday, I was fisted anally for the first time. Now, on Monday, I am bleeding vaginally. First old dark blood, now a brighter fresher flow. Why is that?  There was no vaginal involvement. Thanks in advance!

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  I hope I can provide the help you are looking for.

My first words of advice to you are to strongly suggest that you consult with a doctor.  You have undoubtedly experienced a tear of some sort, either with regards to the rectal opening itself, or deeper within the anus.  It is very possible to tear the rectal opening in such a way that the tear extends to the vaginal opening, and if this is the case stitches may even be required.  Some women, during childbirth, experience a tear in the vaginal opening that can extend back to and involve the rectum.  So it is entirely possible that the opposite has occurred, in which a tear in your rectum has extended to and included your vagina.

If you do not feel comfortable consulting with your family physician about this, try going to an urgent care clinic or your local emergency room.  Or perhaps a local family planning clinic, such as Planned Parenthood or something similar, may be of help.  This is not something that should be ignored, especially if the bleeding continues or becomes worse.

Anal play is not something to be engaged in lightly.  The rectum was not designed to be penetrated, and while it can be done safely, precautions must be taken.  Before you engage in such activities again, I would encourage you and your partner to do some research as to how to do such things safely, so that you both can enjoy them.  One thing you can do is to start out with introducing small objects, such as a finger or a small dildo or butt plug, and gradually increase the size of the penetrating object.  It will be some time before you are ready for something as large as a fist.  And lubrication is a must; the vagina has a very nice natural lubricant, whereas the anus does not.

Here are some good places to begin your research:
http://www.yourtango.com/200681/anal-sex-for-beginners.html
http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=faq&refid=125
http://www.sexualhealthchannel.com/analhealth/index.shtml
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ultimate_Guide_to_Anal_Sex_for_Women

Good luck to you, and if you have any further questions, feel free to contact me again.

arani_CsA,
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