Expert: arani_CsA - 11/10/2008

Question
I hope you will be able to help me with the situation i found myself in recently. A relative guy recently asked me if we could start a relationship becouse he thinks he is in love with me. I however, rejected his love since i only see him as an older brother. He is the sweetest and nicest person i know so far but i just couldn't bring myself to love him the way he wanted to be loved. Nevertheless, this changed as time passed on, i can now say that yes i am deeply in love with him even though he lives in another country. The problem is that i cannot tell him how i feel becouse i am so scared of what would  happen, would he reject my love like i rejected his? please help me, what should i do?

Answer
Hello...

I'm not sure why you posted this question to me, since it doesn't really fall within the category of BDSM.  But I'll try to answer it anyway.

There are some complications here that would make a relationship with this man difficult.  You say he is a relative; how close a relative is he?  I'm sure you know that there are laws in this country that prohibit marriage between close relatives.  Also, if he is living in another country, any kind of a serious relationship would mean that he would have to return to this country permanently, or you would have to go and live where he is.  Is this possible?

Once you answer these questions, then it's a matter of getting up enough courage to tell this man how you feel about him.  He may indeed reject your advances, but you don't know unless you talk to him.  Then, if he does return your interest, the two of you then have the task of figuring out how you're going to go about making what you want happen.

Good luck to you.

arani_CsA