Expert: ziggy ziegler - 11/20/2008

Question
I am a Sadist, and have been in the lifestyle now for over 3 yrs. I currently own 3 slaves (1 Transgender and 1 Couple, both are Bisexual) to which I cherish dearly. I have interests in the following:
Flogging, Paddles, Whips, Wax Play, Anal, Humiliation, Collars, Clamps, Sissification, Toys & other items used in BDSM, Collaring Ceremonies, Gags, Spanking, Verbal Domination, Bondage, Electro-Stimulation, PVC & Leather wear, Body Modification, Branding, Extreme Torture, Blindfolding, Scarf Play, Breath Play,and Role-Play Scenes.

I am registered with a majority of the BDSM websites (i.e. CollarMe, Bondage, ALT, etc). I am currently writing a "Slave Contract" and I am also interested in going PRODOMME as well. I have been taught the general rules of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual" not to mention have been researching more into the lifestyle and bringing out my "True" self.

I am seeking mentorship and am willing to learn how to manage my household (including my slaves/subs house seeing as I am moving directly next door to them). Also any training that is required I am willing to partake in to expand and tone my personal skills.

Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Answer
Dear Ma'am

Thank you for the question. Its sounds as if you are off to a wonderful start.  Being authentically who you are naturally puts you miles ahead. Looking for a mentor sometimes is like searching for the proverbial needle in the hay stack and sometimes the information come piece meal so to speak.

I do have a considerable amount of experience in mentoring and the training process; to include household management and development of workable protocols. I would be more than happy to share those thoughts and ideas with you should you have specific questions.

Where I feel there are a lot of good site out there, for me nothing takes the place of real time interactions. There are a number of recommendations I have, beginning with googling “BDSM Groups” and then add your city and state. This should bring up all the real time groups in your area. I recommend this because it will help to expose you to others who are developing real time relationship and can share their successes and their struggles. They often have SM Demos or special interest groups that might be on relationships. However, most real time groups are PLAY based, demos and play parties all good and can be fun.

Another, type of group is MAsT groups (Masters and slaves together) this group is relationship based where others Masters and Mistress’ along with their slaves can get together, talk and provide support during the learning process. This is also where one can reach out to find a suitable mentor. More often than not, a Mistress or Master will have more than one mentor. You can check out MAsT national to find a group near you at WWW.MAST.Net


Other avenues for learn and ones I highly recommend is the master slave conference in Washington DC.. www.masterslaveconference.com  its a weekend of education and socializing with other M/s couples or people who are interested in M/s. In addition there are a number of events through out the country like South plains Leather conference in Dallas.. Southeast Leather Fest (SELF) in Atlanta GA. Northwest Leather celebration San Jose CA. Southwest Leather conference in Phoenix AZ.. All these events offer opportunities for education and support in the learning process and, they are great fun.

One more avenue is master’s retreat. Master Tiano offers a wonderful retreat for masters. He is also the producer of the M/s conference in DC. This is a time for Mistress’ and Masters to come together and learn from one another. This retreat is small and is a chance for you to ask whatever you choose and to get feed back on a course of action that is best for you and your household.

There is also a group of Masters and Mistress creating a course work program for masters and mistresses it is in its beginning stages, but is very promising I have listed the web site on in this post and its lead founder is a good friend of mine and my owners.

http://www.msdevelopmentcenter.com/Founding_Members_Main.html

Education and the ability to learn from a variety of sources is extremely important and can save you a lot of time and mess ups. However, Ma'am in your search for mentorship and learning please do not forget that a lot of what we do in M/s is based in common sense and that should always prevail for long term success.

Again, thank you for the opportunity to answer your question I do hope it was helpful. Please feel free to ask a follow up question if needed.

Best of luck and best wishes
slave ziggy