Expert: Oscar G. - 12/7/2008

Question
i am currently a 24/7 slave to a couple. however, in my 6 months of being here, i've been treated as a daughter, with less of a focus on the slave part (however i am still treated as a slave in some ways). because i have recently become very close to one and not the other, They decided They want to change everything and treat me only as a slave. i don't know how to overcome the bitterness i feel towards one of them in this whole situation. however, i feel that i am where i belong. do you have any advice on overcoming pride. it is certainly a very hard thing to do.

thank you.

Answer
Hello:

Since you do not hint at the gender of the other person whom you got closer to, I will attempt to understand the scenario from what you told me. I am assuming you live 24/7 with them, and one of them got jealous of the bond you 2 made, or very likely the balance of power was shifted. And it was back to what was supposed to be in the begining.

I am not sure what originally was the concept and intention of the contract with you as submissive to the couple. Both subs to him, with her being Alpha and you beta, or slave to both of them. I think whatever the original intent was, it certainly has changed. But here the point would be to redefine the relation. To sit down and talk it over. Darn be submissive or dominant roles.  At the core you are a human being and they are too. You 3 have feelings and emotions and obviously something developed, and the 3rd person  felt left out or considered it was not what it was supposed to be.

If you want to stay with them, ask clearly whatis expected of you and what your role is. If as they define it and expect it from you is not something you feel comfortable or can live with it; you need to re-evaluate the situation and change it or leave. A relation with 2 people is complex enough as it is, making with 3 makes it harder and more complex. Do not expect a fairy tale. Work at it and maybe you will get what you need.

You want a relationship? or being a slave? sometimes it is not always the same and every person has a different expectation and definition of what they are. SO... you have to discuss it, share it compromise and agree. Otherwise it is a one-side affair and perhaps could not be in your best interest.

This is after all my opinion, but i hope it helps you to define your path or find the insight you seek. I send you my best wishes.
Be safe and take care.
Oscar G.