Expert: Master Shadow - 12/3/2008

Question
hi..soon I will have a slave here as a live in to serve both domestically and sexually. in order to establish dominance quickly, what are some ways you could recommend to do that?  the only thing I have  planned now are to inspect her luggage (coming in from europe) and her; also plan a good whipping to help make the point. are there any other things I can do to assist with this?  thank you!

Answer
Seems to me that the first order of business, besides the whipping, of course, would be to establish certain rules of Your House. These could include such things as meal times, bath times, sleep scheduling, and setting certain ground rules such as calling if you're going to be late getting home.

This is a good time to bring up daily chores, such as making the beds, and straightening up around the house, and preparing meals. This is also a good time to teach things like how You like Your coffee, and toast or eggs prepared in the morning.

This is the time to teach Your slave/sub in the way that most pleases You, and the time for the T/two of Y/you to grow, and learn each O/other. Realize, there is much to teach, and much to learn. Be patient in this. Move slowly. Be quick to forgive and quick to forget during this time. The slave/sub will be nervous, somewhat frightened, and unsure of themselves as well as You. This is the time to establish trust, and patience. One can be both caring, and dominant at the same time. It does not indicate weakness, but rather a desire to train Your property correctly.

Set up these rules, but only give them in 10 rule increments. This will make things less forbidding to the slave/sub, and give them a goal that is easily attained. Compliment when there is achievement, and help, rather than scold when correcting. The slave/sub, under those circumstances should have no problem adjusting to their new life with You.

I hope this helps. Please feel free to contact Me further if You require further clarification, or have further questions.





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