Expert: Mistress Violette - 12/14/2008

Question
I am submissive man to my dminant loing temr partner. I enjoy being her slave and we enjoysex from vanila to all sort ok kink.
Recently she asked that she want me to be raped by a man.
I beleive I am straight but agreed to please her.
She tiied me spread legs and found a man o nthe net who used me orally and anally and ejaculated in my mouth.

I ddi not enjoy it, did not like it and male sperm made me "sick"
now, she wanted me to do it again with other men as she enjoys my humilation so much.

Should I agree again to please her?
and if I agree is there any way for a "straight" man like me to enjoy gay sex?

Answer
Hello, Ryan,

There are straight men who, while not exactly enjoying sex with another man, find it appealing because it makes their owners happy. You seem to understand that the essence of submission is not your pleasure but the satisfaction of pleasing your dominant. That said, there are some things that just cross the line and can't be tolerated by the submissive no matter how much it pleases the dominant. Those are "hard limits" and dominants need to respect them. Doing otherwise isn't taking good care of their most important possessions, their submissives.

From your description, sex with another man is a hard limit for you. Please tell your dominant this and about your reaction. You want her to  understand you're not refusing to do what she wants, you've run into a very difficult situation.

This is the sort of thing that requires negotiation. It's possible you'll be willing to try this again in the future, after you've had time to get over this negative ezperience. If so, it could be helpful if your dominant would introduce you to this type of activity gradually and carefully. It might not satisfy her desire for a "rape" scenario but sometimes both people involved in the relationship need to compromise.

Good luck to you, Ryan.

Mistress Violette