Expert: Mistress Violette - 12/1/2008

Question
Greetings Mistress Violette i would like to beg a question of You if i may.  i am a 24yr old male sub new to the house slave life and my new Mistress has given me a task and i am finding it difficult to find information on the subject. i am to write a 1000 word essay on slave protocol and how it will relate directly to our first meeting, now i know that it can be risky meeting someone in this kind of situation and have already done preliminary background checks and we have spoken much both online and over the phone we even happen to have a few mutual friends that we both have met in-person, i am having serious trouble finding this information in order to utilize it in my essay can you point me in the right direction? i would also like to point out that the essay must be done buy 3pm est. 12-01-08 kinda tough but not impossible if i can find information in a timely manner

Answer
Hello, AJ,

I'm going to suggest two search terms to you, both of which will turn up many results that might be of use to you for your essay. I'm going to leave it up to you to look through them and decide which fit your needs. People have different ideas of protocols and you'll know best what your potential mistress has in mind.

When some people say protocols they mean a set of prescribed behaviors, such as lowered eyes and not sitting on furniture. There is no general adherence to something like this and I don't think there needs to be. It's not necessary for everyone. Also, it would be next to impossible to have a set of rules that work for all dominants and submissives. If this is what your potential mistress has in mind, however; try this search term "BDSM slave protocols."

Other people mean common sense ideas, some of which you've already mentioned. I'm thinking this is what your potential mistress has in mind. After all, you're not completely her slave yet. The purpose of meeting is to see if it all comes together in person. If it looks like it might, this is where you will finalize your negotiations and move forward. Up until that point you need to still be your own man, so you can negotiate effectively. A good search term to find ideas about conducting a first meeting is "safety bdsm first meeting." Here's a very detailed article from the results of the latter search: http://www.thebdsmsite.org/bdsmsafetyfirstmeeting.htm and there are others just as good.

Good luck, AJ, I hope this all works out well for you.

Mistress Violette