Expert: arani_CsA - 12/20/2008

Question
I used my slave as a foot stool and she said it bothered her so I tried to explain the honor I felt for her submission. How else can I explain this too her for her to feel comfortable with it.

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for your question.  I hope I can help you find the answers you are looking for.

Slaves are often very different creatures from submissives, and many of them are not submissive at all.  A submissive is a person who craves being commanded, and who receives a thrill from obeying those commands.  On the other hand, it doesn't matter whether a slave enjoys being obedient or not.  She simply must do it.  For example, I absolutely hate turnip greens -- they make me want to throw up.  And, yet, when I am told to eat them, I must do it.  Not because I want to, but because I made a commitment when I took this collar, to obey -- without question.

Frankly, it doesn't matter whether your slave "feels comfortable" with being used as furniture.  Much of what is required is a change in the thought processes, where she understands that she is not your equal -- will never be your equal -- and that she exists for the purpose of pleasing you.  A well-trained dog may be loved by its owner, but it is still just a dog, and can never hope for anything more than to be treated like a dog.  Indeed, to treat it as anything else is doing it a disservice, and can even be cruel.

The best thing you can do for her slave is to help her understand her place in your world.  Unlike submissives, slaves don't want to be coddled or put on a pedestal.  Slaves are at their happiest when they are ground under the Master's foot, and reminded that they are -- after all -- only slaves.  

Slaves do, however, have limits.  There are some things that they simply cannot do, no matter how much they may want to.  For instance, I have a bad heart.  There are some things that I cannot do for my Master, no matter how much I crave to do those very things, because to do them might mean death.  Even so, I trusted my Master to grant me this limit out of his generosity, after dutifully informing him of my health problems.  And the fact that he has done so only makes me want to serve him all the more.

It is also important to remember that this relationship is consensual.  (Or, at least, I hope it is.)  If the slave experiences no joy in filling the place which you have chosen for her, and cannot bring herself to learn to accept it, then it is not the place for her.  It is important for a Master to understand his slave's needs, and desires, while at the same time understanding that these are nowhere near as important as his own.  These needs and desires can be used as a form of rewarding good behavior, and of inspiring loyalty.

Good luck to you, and if you have any further questions please feel free to bring them to me.

arani_CsA,
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