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i am about to get married i have been living with my partner for 8 years and we have done a few things to-gether, she has used a strap-on on me only twice, she likes to watch me masterbate for her, we enjoy watching porn together, she suggested dressing up for me, we went to a sex shop but i got embarrised and we left which she got annoyed about, but i want to take things a little further, i really enjoy cfnm and want to try this with her,i want her to keep me naked @ home and for whole wekends, i want her to watch me masterbate from across the room, some times when i masterbate for her she maked me taste my own cum she has hinted on using a riding crop on me which i'd really enjoy, how do i let her know i want her to dominate me in the bed room and when we are alone, but i want a equal relationship outside the bedroom?
Greetings john,
Good luck with getting married.
Now for your question, I would suggest that you sit down and talk with her and explain to her what it is you would like. Alot of times couples have fantasy's and work them out in the bedroom. As I am sure you understand that you need to be able to talk to each other. The more you talk the better not only will your marriage be, but your relationship and sexual relationship will be. If you feel that you cant talk, take the strap on to her and offer it to her. Leave it on her side of the bed, or where she sits at night. Make it where she would have to move it, hints like this will allow her to know what it is you want. Although I stress *talk* with her. Write stories and send them to her, or give them to her. You can find storys as well on the web.
Although let me warn you, you might end up wanting more from her then just in the bedroom as times go.
A good book for you to offer her to help her understand is
The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance by Lorelei
This will give her idea for your bedroom play and maybe a little more as time goes on. I would suggest you give it to her for your wedding gift.
Good luck
Sky's Pet Kayra
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Lady Aryana
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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.
Experience
I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another
Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.
Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.
Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.
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