Expert: Mistress Violette - 3/18/2008

Question
Am having a online D/s relation with a girl. cud u please suggest me some of the online and offline tasks - I can ask her to perform for me. Asking cause seems there is a fatigue developing on the same old tasks again and again . Since variety is the spice of life - please suggest some. wud be gr8ful. thanks

Answer
Hello, Role,

I've answered this question before and been told the information was helpful, so I'm going to share the same ideas with you.

It's hard to make play suggestions for someone without knowing her interests and abilities. When it comes to play, there's a wide variety of activities. What you do will depend on what interests you and the reactions it gets from your submissive. If you do phone or instant messaging sessions, you'll want some things you can do real time. You might want to deliver some instructions by e-mail; you can also get reports back that way. Requiring written reports is good discipline for her and interesting for you. I'm going to list some resources, both for play ideas and for information. Once you've done some exploring and looked at what other people do, it will be easier for you to come up with effective play ideas.

The first site is: http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html
Here you'll find lots of general information on BDSM, some good advice, and a page of BDSM activities, many of which can be used in a long distance relationship.

A site with excellent ideas for play in long distance relationships is: http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/net_long_main.php3

This thread was aimed at play with male subs but some of the ideas would work fine for female subs: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/boards/generalbdsm/147015/0/

Once you've checked out these suggestions, I'm sure you'll find some you can use. You can customize some of the ideas to the interests of you and your submissive. I think you'll be able to build on these ideas and soon you'll be getting new ideas of your own. Good luck and have fun!

Mistress Violette