Expert: Oscar G. - 3/18/2008

Question
I am new to this, my partner has been in this lifestyle for 11 years and desires to make me the best submissive I can be. I am asking if their is any advice of things i can do to show him that I am willing to be submissive in every aspect of the word

Answer
Dear Kim:

Attitude is everything, but also acting and showing  your attitude in the right proper ways. You will not need to become a robot dutiful slave. But your own personality and charms should shine through in your service. But how to do you  you ask?

Learn about  yourself and about him. And define what type of BDSM relationship you have. Some Are 24/7  affairs and others are only Dom/sub relationships in the bedroom. The best submissive you can be usually the best submissive you can be for HIM. Figure out his handles. His likes and his kinks. And find out how much you are attuned and agree with him or look forward to his. Ask, talk and do. Let your best attitude show through. Pleasing is a  big booster of attention and ego, but make sure he notices you. His praise should indicate you if you are in the right track.

It could be said it boils down to effective communication, depending on the way you 2 relate.

I hope this helps.

Be well, be safe and have fun.

Oscar G.