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Expert: Lady Aryana - 4/7/2008


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Hello, I have a friend who is not happy in the M/s relationship he is in. He asked me about asking his Master for release, and if I knew how he should go about it. I told him that I have heard of letters of release, but haven't seen one. Do you possibly know where he could look online for examples of such letters, or a site with such info? Thank you for your time. It is appreciated.

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Patti,

Asking release is not something you need to do in writing, the only time I have seen it happen is when there was a contract in place, and the terms of the contract where not being met.

So for your friend, all he need to do and approach his Master, and kneel down, telling him he would like to be released. If he Master doesn't do it, then at this time, your friend can simply remove it himself. Have him get his things together, and out of the house, if he is living with his Master.

As for finding something I would suggest that our friend write out and date what he plans on saying for release, and on the day he does ask, have him sign it and date it, with the time it happen. If he Master agrees to release him, he can ask him to sign it as well, if he is worried about others thinking he simply walked away from the relationship.

Also, some Master's have a waiting period, a week or two, to try to resolve the problems that are happening in the relationship to see if things can work out, so your friend my be told that he will be released on a date if then they both agree the relationship is not working,

Good luck

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.

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I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another

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I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

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Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

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