Expert: Mistress Violette - 4/21/2008

Question
Hi.. My partner and i are taking out relationship to the next level.  We need structure, and are working on this as an 'almost' full time thing.. She has asked me to think up daily and weekly tasks for her to perform when we are seperated or during periods when i am working away.  They need to be something that requires effort, or at least a small amount of time. I have been readind LOADS, but im am struggling..    Do you have any advice or suggestion that can help me.   Thank you...  John.

Answer
Hello, John,

It's hard to make play suggestions for someone without knowing her interests and abilities and other dynamics of the relationship. Instead, I'll offer some ways to jump start your own creativity. I'm going to list some resources, both for play ideas and for information. Once you've done some exploring and looked at what other people do, it will be easier for you to come up with effective play ideas, personalized for the two of you.

The first site is: http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html
Here you'll find lots of general information on BDSM, some good advice, and a page of BDSM activities, many of which can be used in a long distance relationship.

A site with excellent ideas for play in long distance relationships is: http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/net_long_main.php3

This thread was aimed at play with male subs but some of the ideas would work fine for female subs: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/boards/generalbdsm/147015/0/

Once you've checked out these suggestions, I'm sure you'll find some you can use. You can customize some of the ideas to the interests of you and your submissive. I think you'll be able to build on these ideas and soon you'll be getting new ideas of your own. You might even be able to come up with something she can do that directly benefits you, which will help her feel like she's being of service to you. Good luck and have fun!

Mistress Violette