Expert: awhitecloud - 4/4/2008

Question
My name is Aimee, and I'm 18 years old. You can say that I've always been a bit of a feminist. I'm really into equal rights, and love beating guys any chance I get. I tend to be the leader in most situations because of my maturity, and love to control how things go.

But it seems that sexually I enjoy submitting. Strange, right? I know in my heart that I am a sub. Whenever my Dom exerts his Dominance I find deep sexual satisfaction. But yet, he cannot do the same thing in any other area of my life.

Does being a sub change the strong person I try to be? My Dom tells me that it doesn't, that me finding sexual gratification by submitting is just what I like. He's basically very supportive of me, and wants me to continue to be my own person.

But does this mean I'm really not as strong as I think I am?

Thanks for your time-

Aimee

Answer
Aimee,

It is a great question, thank you for asking it.

For myself when I am a sub is my time to not be responsible for anything and to be taken care of, I am in charge of so many things.  Being a sub does not mean you are weak in any way it takes a lot of strength to be a sub.

I do feel that I can run the rest of what I need with a job, kids home what have you and not mean I am not a sub.  Each relationship is different and you submit to the one that you trust and love, in who ever fashion meets your relationship needs.

For me submitting is far more then just sexual gratification it is a peace that touches me deep down inside of me in the core of my being.  We are all different however so for you it might just be about the sexual gratification.  I am not just into the sexual aspects of D/s I am into more of the power exchange and having aspects of this in my life to feel a part of a Dom with me through-out each and every day.  When I can not feel a Dom there is when my life just seems to get unorganized and I feel that I just do not fit into the world.  When I feel a Dom in my life I am in charge of all I need to be and I know my place and all just fits and makes since.

That is what makes me tick and remember that there is no right or wrong thing; you are a sub in what ever meets your needs and that of your Dom at the time.  You submit in what ever manner meets your relationship needs.  Grow with it learn through it and never stop expanding your knowledge of the life style.  Thanks again for the question and please excuses my not answering it right away, but sometimes real life calls and I am not just able to be here to get the mail as fast as I might even like to.

awhitecloud