Expert: arani_CsA - 4/22/2008

Question
hi, i'm a newbie, so pls oblige me. how does a bdsm relationship affect ur performance at work? ie outside of the bedroom/household? wld it be like any other relationship? thank you.

Answer
Hello...

Thank you for coming to me with your question.  I hope I can help you find the answers you are looking for.

There are many different variations in the realm of BDSM relationships.  Some couples may simply enjoy a little kinky play in the bedroom, and that's all.  Others may be like my husband and I, and have a full-blown Master/slave relationship that affects every aspect of our relationship.  That's something that each couple has to work out for themselves.  

As for how my status as a slave affects my work, there are many ways.  Three years ago, I took a job that required me to leave home and live in a different city (or even a different state) than my husband, in order to pay for his return to college.   But, in return, he has inspired me to do better in my work than I have ever done, and even aspire to returning to college myself.  (You see, a Dominant or a Master has a huge responsibility in the relationship as well, that of protecting and nurturing his property.)

I suggest that you spend some time learning about the various types of BDSM, and then sit down with your partner and discuss how you can incorporate your interests into your own lives.  You can find some very good information for beginners at:
http://www.castlerealm.com
http://www.leathernroses.com
http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html

Good luck to you.  If you have further questions, feel free to bring them to me.

arani_CsA,
devoted property of Clampius_Arelius