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Well..Im a little new to being a Dominate and having a Slave. She lives in Oklahoma and I live in Florida. I adore her, she is a beautiful Slave. But, in my opinion, all Slaves act up at some point or another. Especially when she is freshly collared.
How are some ways that I can punish her when she disobeys me or misbehaves?
Also what are some things I can do to reward her for being a good slave?
I dont want to be too strict, but I want to be strict enough that she stays inline.
Lymbo,
You are correct, slaves test all the time, to see just what it is they can't and can get away with. Punishment can vary between essay's to ignoring her. Which I don't suggest. I do suggest a web cam, this way any punishment you dish out, can be watched and made sure that they get what is required done. As for rewarding, this can be a phone call, to a card letting her know you are thinking about her. Just think of things you would want, and give them to her..
Good luck
Marie
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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.
Experience
I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another
Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.
Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.
Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.
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