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Expert: Master Shadow - 5/31/2008


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Master, I would like to know a bit more bout behavior and rules for a Dominator

Answer
Your question would have to be a little more specific. In general, most Dominants adhere to a set of standards, either R.A.C.K. (Risk accepted consensual kink), or S.S.C. (Safe, sane and consensual), but there are no set guidelines or rules as to a Dominants behavior. Basically, there are no rules.

Any negotiations about what is expected, allowed, or desired in a bdsm relationship are usually discussed before any play, scene, or collaring ever happen. It is then that expectations, limits, and interests are worked out before a contract is written.

As far as behavior goes, most try to act with a sense of honor and courtesy, and a sense of decorum. In short, most at least try to act somewhat civilized, but like anyone else, are still prone to all the faults, and problems that all of us are beset with in life. Remember, even if you place the Dominant on a pedestal, they are still human.

Hope this helps. Feel free to contact me if you need clarification, or have further questions.

                                            

                                           SINcerely in Leather,
                                           Master Shadow.

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Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, in a Leather Family, head and co owner of House of Dragon, a BDSM House, along with my wife, in a poly relationship, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.

Experience

35 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.

Organizations
Terre Haute S.I.N. Social Interaction Network (CoFounder). Co Owner of House of Dragon.

Publications
Variations Magazine, on "Honor and Respect".

Education/Credentials
Member of The Dungeon Monitors Association, as well as The Violet Wand Guild, and life experience.

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