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Expert: Lady Aryana - 5/16/2008


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I have a friend who believes in female superiority and identifies as a footslave and he feels he should be punished for various infractions he has committed against the female sex over a period of time.  I am a novice in this area and I am concerned about whipping...his choice of punishment.  I don't mind doing it, but how much is too much.  How many lashes is appropriate in one setting?  Please help.  I am concerned about being safe while punishing him correctly.

Sara

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Sara,

This is a tricky question, different slaves can take whippings differently. I suggest you start out slow, pick the item of YOUR choice, and go from there. Stay away from the kidney's and other body parts that can cause long term harm. The butt, can take alot more then most give it credit for. Some slaves can't handle more then fifty swats, others can take up to and maybe more then 500 swats. If there aren't any long term marks, then you really need not worry. If markings are a issue, then you need to learn just how much it takes to mark him. If they aren't a problem, and they don't cause lasting marks, then have at it. Although I suggest you never punish a slave while angery, or for anything he or she has done before you can into the picture. Just punish him for what you think it is he has done wrong. You said that whippings are his thing, it's not up to him what his punishment is. Cleaning the tolit might be something to think about, writting essay's might be another. Remember he is not the one in charge. Don't let him decide what it is he is being punished with. Your the Mistress, you decide.

Good luck

Here are a few books I suggest you read, and one for you and him both

The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance

The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women

The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle  by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

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