AboutMrsMarie Expertise Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocals, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to Master, Sept 25 2003, We were in a long distance relationship until March the following year. We were married Sept 23 2006.
Experience I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissives, I am a real time slave, I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another
Organizations I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.
Publications Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.
Education/Credentials Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking, and Gorean lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victoran and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.
Expert: MrsMarie Date: 5/13/2008 Subject: developing relationship with wife
Question Dear Kayra,
I've recently introduced my wife to the idea of spanking me to help me behave more to her liking. We both agree that I'm too prideful, and that this is helping me to have a more humble spirit. I've shown her that she shouldn't let me orgasm after a spanking (beating, whipping...), because she doesn't want me to connect the spanking with pleasure. So now I'm doing my best to behave so that I don't get a spanking, because I really want to be able to cum.
She knows next to nothing about BDSM. She isn't very patient with me explaining things about it. I want her to incorporate strapons and butt plugs (and other fantasies and fetishes) at her own initiative. But I don't know how to show her how they can enhance our relationship.
I'm torn between topping (or maybe manipulating) from the bottom and just not doing anything.
On the plus side, she's told me that she really likes my behavior since we starting the spankings. (And it's like she's turning into the domme of my dreams, sometimes!)
How can I sell her on going further down the BDSM rabbit hole? (She'll only want to go a bit at a time!)
Answer Hello Aaron,
Welcome and good luck in your relationship.. Let me suggest a few good books for you and your wife,,
The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance
The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women
The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean
Also let me suggest a group that both you and your wife should join.. It is real life Mistress and male slave relationships, you might just find other's in your area which you can become friends with, or simply online friends, which your wife can find a mentor.
The longer you two are in this relationship the easier it will be for her, she simply needs to understand it takes time. I know how it feels not to want to wait but it is something she will have to learn just like you will.
