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QUESTION: after a near death experience my husband decided he wants more out of life. From alt.com he met and has been long distance dating a submissive much younger than him. Not knowing one thing about BDSM I would like to understand, know more, is there another web site to start looking, how to become a submissive in the bed, I guess how to start entering his world that he loves. I truly love him and want to stay married to him. Thank you for you knowledge and helping me start somewhere.
ANSWER: Greetings bea,
I am sorry that it has taken me so long to get back with you, I was in a accident and I am still recovering from it. As for your question, let me suggest a web site for you first hand. Visit
http://marriage-bliss.blogspot.com/
This is a good starting point, and will give you allot of information on what you should do or how to start being submissive to your husband.
Now, as for books, Let me suggest
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice (M/s Studies Books) by PhD Robert J Rubel
The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean
This also has a book for the Master, its named the The Compleat Master by the same writer
Training With Miss Abernathy: A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners by Christina Abernathy
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame and Gloria Brame
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon
As for web site, the one I suggested is about the best one I can give you, anything you find on the net is personal and your relationship with your husband is that, personal. You will both need to agree to what it is you want, and how to get it. I highly suggest you read these books, and both of you go from there. You will find that, your relationship with your husband is alot like the 50's relationships with a couple. Men are in charge and the wife is submissive to him. Which is why Bliss is such a good site. If there is anything else I can do please ask. Again, I am sorry it took me so long, I was/am still recovering from a nasty accident which has keep me away from the puter, and unable to think. I am just now getting back on my feet.
Also, if you would, I can suggest some groups for you, if you wish to share what state you are in. These groups will be for those that are living real time relationships, and the other submissive might be able to offer you alot of good advice when you find you need someone to talk to.
I wish you luck, and It is nice to see one that will do what it takes to make a marriage last.
Lady Kayra
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QUESTION: Yes please send me the info on groups. You are the best!
ANSWER: I need to know what state you live in? It helps when it comes to finding just the right group.
Good luck
Marie
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QUESTION: I live in Washington State
Hello again bre,
Here you go. i am sending you the entire link which you can find just about anything.. I hope this helps, I am taking a break, this accident I was in a month ago, is not getting any better, I and I simply dont have the engry to keep up at the moment..
Good luck and I will let you know when I return
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=BDSM+Washington&fr=groups-falloff&xargs=0&pstar
Marie
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Lady Aryana
Expertise
Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.
Experience
I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another
Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.
Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.
Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.
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