AboutCougarDomme Expertise I can answer any question about BDSM in practice, theory or relationships
Experience I have been in the BDSM scene for 25 years. I am a prodomme with a specialty of medical play. I give demonstrations on safe, sane and consensual play in the area of play: sounds, needle play, medical,saline infusions,sterile procedure,fisting,fire,knife and RACK edge play.
Organizations FLOG (St.Louis) Leather and Lace (St. Louis) Amatorius (Virginia) Black Rose (DC)Wicked (Raleigh NC)
Education/Credentials I have a Master's degree in Nursing
Question QUESTION: Hi
I really want to find out how does one start off as a professional Domme?? I have thought about this for a long time and realized this is something I really want and am moving to Dublin to do it. However, this is a first place I am finding real information so really hope you can help.
Are there any courses? Or do other Dommes take on trainees?
How does it work?
Thank you
ANSWER: Some dommes take trainees, some don't. The best thing is to go to events and watch and learn and ask questions. The best dommes start as subs IMHO because you can't domme someone unless you know what it's like from the other side. When you have learned, you find clients, like any other profession.
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QUESTION: What does subs IMHO mean? A part of me wants this, and the other real scared, and have no idea if i could go through with it. Is this normal?
How can I find dommes that take on trainees? And how do I get them to pick me? I mean they must have plenty of people interested in that. Right? How does the little scared me get a chance?
Do you know of any good , detailed, informative websites, where I can learn about it all?
Thank you
Answer Forgive me, but I'm going to be blunt and direct.This isn't a vocation, it's a calling. You obviously don't have any experience in the BDSM scene at all and are looking at being a prodomme as strictly an economic opportunity. That makes you come across to me as a hooker looking at how to make more money doing kinky tricks as opposed to a sincere, lifestyle-oriented domme. "Little scared you" is not the mindset of a professional domme and you are going to end up getting hurt because you have no clue how to control someone--what are you going to do when your 6 foot 4 sub suddenly attacks you because you pushed the button that turns him into a homicidal maniac because you didn't know what you were doing? Stick to pole dancing as a career choice, you have no business as a prodomme and no serious pro is going to give you the time of day let alone take you on as an apprentice. You aren't qualified to be a submissive let alone a domme as you have no concept of the BDSM scene at all or what it takes. This isn't a career choice, it's a hard-wired, born-this-way lifestyle that you've gravitated to from your earliest sexual experiences, not something you read about in a magazine as lucrative and decide you want to be one.
