Expert: CougarDomme - 6/26/2008

Question
Hi,

I am in a D/s relationship that is not M/s, though we are incorporating some behaviour modification (ie: I chew my cuticles and this drives my guy crazy, he wants me to stop, I want to stop, thus when I do it Ive earned a punishment).

To this end, we've come up with a list of punishments for the various infractions. However, I am having trouble with making a list of rewards to go with it. Rewards already on the list include: massages, small treats like chocolate or new books, getting out of an undesired activity (such as wearing strict bondage to bed), or no-strings orgasms. However.. my imagination runs dry at that point, as we'd like the rewards to be fairly sensual and possibly incorporate some of the kink that we enjoy.

Do you have any suggestions, or could you point us to a site that offers some? We've pretty much exhausted the usual sites (ie: xeromag, bondage.com etc)

Thank you for your time, it is appreciated.
Nan

Answer
Let your imagination run wild. You can get some books to read on the subject at Amazon.com, I've found 'Screw the roses, send me the thorns' to be very helpful to newbies. You might also join a local group and go to some play parties for new ideas and a good web reference that isn't porn and treats BDSM as a normal subject is
www.sexuality.org and then do a search for 'BDSM' and there's a TON of really good info there. If you will tell me what part of the country you are in, I will find a local group for you to join.
All the Best,
CougarDomme