Aboutarani_CsA Expertise I am available to answer any questions you might have about Domination/submission, or Master/slave relationships. Currently, I have been spending a lot of time researching and thinking about the relationship between spirituality and slavery/submission. I define myself as a Gorean slave, but I have studied other forms of consensual slavery as well.
Experience I was collared by my Master on May 6, 2000, and on Nov. 8, 2003 became his wife as well. Prior to that time, I wore the collars of two other men. My website can be accessed at http://www.geocities.com/dancer_of_gor, and my Yahoo! group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/itsaslaveslife.
Question greetings kajira. this girl is a online kajira at the moment that has served a gorean Master though it did not work out due to my brattiness. is there a way to cure brattiness? we have tried phyically mentally emotionally and none of the above has changed my bratiness. this girl knows that brattiness lives inside her but when the brat wants to come out and play the brat over powers me meaning that i am not able to control the brat. lol. im just looking for advice to how to maybe at least get it under control as online there is no brat that comes out at all but serving real life i can be a handful because this bitch brat that likes to come out. can you help?
Answer Hello...
Thank you for coming to me with your question. i hope i can help you find the answers you are looking for.
As for the person who told you there are no brats in Gor, that person was very wrong. Brats abound in Gor. We may not use that term, but there are many Masters who thoroughly enjoy a high-spirited and playful slave. They take pride in taming that slave, and making her do their bidding, or they find amusement watching the slave's antics.
One big difference is how these kajirae USE their brattiness. Do they use it to entertain themselves, or to get what they want? Or do they do it to serve the Master, whether that be to entertain Him or to show Him that she is an intelligent and creative woman who uses those high spirits to His best interests? As we all know, it is the Master who determines how the slave is to serve, and it is her duty to provide that service -- whatever that may be.
The qualities that one Master may absolutely hate in a slave, another will find very desirable and to be prized. The key is to find a Master who enjoys this aspect of your personality, and is willing to train that to His benefits. The important thing is not for YOU to control the brat, but for you to allow the Master to control it. That means not extinguishing that side of you, but instead exploring it and finding out how to make use of it in a constructive way.
Not all slaves are submissive. i don't have a submissive bone in my body, and i'm not at all ashamed to admit that. i don't think it's a required quality for a slave -- in fact, when i was active in the chat rooms a few years ago, one of the worst insults that could be leveled against a slave was to call her "just a submissive." And i'm not talking about how submissives have limits and safe words.
Yes, i do submit. But i also cook, and that doesn't mean i'm a chef. i submit because i simply have no other choice; i may or may not enjoy it, but i made a commitment to my Master when i took His collar. You are most likely familiar with the quote in which Norman says that the essential qualities of a slave are to be beautiful, to be obedient, and to be pleasing. To me, these are three different qualities. A slave can be disobedient, and still be extremely pleasing. A slave may be beautiful, and obey every command to the letter, and yet be displeasing. Now, how to do that is something that i'll leave for you to find out -- consider it a challenge, and one that every slave will meet differently. But it's one of the most important lessons a kajira can learn.
So, don't be ashamed of your brattiness. Be proud of it, and find a Master who enjoys it. Then use that side of your personality to make yourself a good and dutiful slave.
i hope i've helped you to find some understanding in this. If you have any further questions, feel free to contact me again.
