AboutMaster Shadow Expertise Can answer your BD/SM Lifestyle questions regarding flogging, caning, paddles, whips, scening, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, ice play, books, breathplay including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, links, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle, Will not answer questions regarding medical advice in regards to the Lifestyle. I am a sadist, married to a Domme, who is also a sadist, am the owner of two, and enjoy the 24/7 lifestyle.
Experience 31 Years experience in the BD/SM Lifestyle.
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Expert: Master Shadow Date: 6/4/2008 Subject: breaking up from my master
Question hi i am from israrl, submassive women and a slave' reacently i fell my master is building his way out, i am scard so mutch, how can you go throgh loosing your master, i feel i want to die
Answer Not knowing how long the two of Y/you have been together, I would have to say first of all, you need to speak with your Master in regards to this. Explain your fears to Him. Explain how this is making you feel inside. Tell Him how much it will affect you if you loose Him, or His collar. If you haven't told Him these things, how is He to know?
A Dominant needs to have complete honesty from Their slave or sub. This, in My opinion, is not debatable, and is held as a primary rule in My House. A Dominant needs to know everything about Their property in order to take care of any misunderstandings, or misgivings the slave or sub might have. How are the Dominants to know if Their slave or sub doesn't tell Them, or trust Them enough to tell them things.
As far as feeling like you do, this is common. It will take hard work, and determination to get through this if it does happen the way you fear. But, remember, others have also gone through this. Others have had the same feelings you are having now. You will survive it. You will be ok.
You might try to find others who have gone through this, and get help there as well. Often, others can help you through these feelings, and help with emotional support, and friendship. It helps to talk about it, and get ideas.
Also, try to find out why. Find out if it is something you have done, or not done that is causing this. Always ask your Master if there was something that was lacking, or something that could have been different, and more to His liking. Try to compromise if possible. Be flexible, and listen carefully to Him. Take in what He says, analyze it, and see if there is a solution to all of this. Be honest. Make sure that anger doesn't get involved in the negotiations, and see if the two of Y/you can't come up with something other than an uncollaring.
I wish only the best for your Master, and you on this matter. If you need further information, or clarification on anything, feel free to ask.
