Expert: Mistress Violette - 7/23/2008

Question
Mistress Violette, have you ever branded anyone? Many years ago, I was involved with a Mistress named Paris. She had a man in her life named Ramon. We discussed having me branded with a "Property of Paris and Ramon" brand. I couldn't wait for it to happen. My Mistress backed out saying she was concerned that perhaps she and Ramon wouldn't always be a couple. As it turned out, she was correct...she and Ramon split up. We discussed just a "Property of Paris" brand, but she soon got out of the scene. My question, I guess, is this, have you ever branded anyone? Also, I live in a suburb of Detroit. I have not lost my desire to have a brand put on me. Do people or Mistresses still do this? Any ideas on where I might find a Mistress would would do me the honor of having me wear her brand?
I appreciate your taking the time to read this.
Have a great day,
Jim

Answer
Hello, Jim,

As I'm sure you're aware, we all have different tastes in play and permanent modification is not one of mine. I much prefer piercings, for both safety and aesthetic reasons. But that's me. Others will be attracted to different things. I would just caution you to do a great deal of research and know what's involved before you decide that you want this wish fulfilled. You have to trust your partner, yes, but you're also responsible for knowing enough to be able to evaluate whether she really knows what she's doing.

It's possible you're being too narrow in defining your goal. A goal of "finding a mistress" is somewhat limiting. A goal of "finding a mistress who will brand me" is even more so. I've found that people do better at finding a partner if they look not for partners, but for friends who share their interest in BDSM. Friends are always good to have, of course, and some friends can eventually become partners or can introduce you to potential partners. Most folks I know found partners as a side effect of getting out and doing in the local scene. You're lucky in that there are several groups in your area. A quick search for "BDSM support groups" will find them. I suggest you get involved, meet people, learn from people. You might find you actual goal is something you can't even articulate right now. That happens to many of us but, somehow, we know when we've found it.

Good luck to you.

Mistress Violette