AboutSuperboy Expertise I can answer questions regarding Daddy / boy relationships Master / slave relationships and history of the gay leather BDSM community. I can also provide information on flogging in relation to types of floggers and as much as can be said on how to online without meeting in person
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Expert: Superboy Date: 7/17/2008 Subject: Bringing someone who's interested into a D/b relationship.
Question Hi. I'm an upper level college undergraduate, and I've been a sub for a while. However, I recently learned that a friend was role-playing Daddy/lil girl play online. He's a guy and finds both the structure of Daddy/lil girl and the gender-bending aspects of it interesting. Both of which I find very interesting as well.
Learning of this has given me some strong interest in that kind of thing, and unlike all my previous interests in being a submissive in a M/s or D/s relationship, I find myself interested in trying the Dominant part of this relationship.
1 - My current Dom (a Switch) knows of this and approves of this, he knows the guy and thinks well of him, and has given me permission to pursue this, hoping it'll teach me how to be more Dominant when he's in his occasional submissive moods.
2 - He and I have already established this kind of relationship, but he is only interested in role-playing this kind of thing on-line, he has stated that he doesn't want to carry it over into off-line, real-life stuff. I respect his boundaries, but suspect that it is a soft-boundary, yet I don't know how to push a sub towards a soft-boundary while remaining respectful.
3 - I have an amazing level of access to him now, because we were good enough friends to become room-mates in our dorm. We will be living together for a year at least, possibly two.
I don't want to damage my friendship with him, but I can't help but think that both he and I would enjoy such a relationship. How should I approach this?
I'll state right away that if it's a button I shouldn't push, I won't. I do not want to do the wrong thing here.
P.S. - I think that his unwillingness to try things off-line has a lot to do with his overly controlling parents (Ironic, considering the kind of relationship I'm interested in).
Answer My first thoughts are these:
1 he stated that he did not want an offline or real time relationship.
While the case may be that it is a soft boundary, or that his upbringing has him conflicted, it is all the more reason to respect that.
Letting him know that you are not pushing him will keep him from that knee jerk reaction. You know when you get pushed you push back kind of thing. I don't think that it would be a bad thing to let him know that you are willing to participate off line while not saying that he has to or making feel like he has to. You being there and his friend that understands what he desires means that he is safe and comfortable with you and when or if he is ready he knows that you are there.
You dont want to create an uncomfortable living situation or lose a friend so be supportive patient and accessible but don't have expectations of any thing more. If more happens, then its a wonderful thing but you won't be disappointed if it doesnt and you will be being a friend to him.
Hope that i help in some small way,
respectfully yours
boy d aka superboy
