Expert: Master Shadow - 7/31/2008

Question
i have 2 seperate questions.

1.  my boyfriend wants to try midori style bondage on me... what the hell is midori and how painful is it?  im new to bdsm, and im a little nervous.

2. my boyfriend wants me to fist myself while he watches... but i can never do it. literally, i can do it.  any tips?  thanks


Answer
Midori is a Who, not a "what", so to speak. Midori is heavily into Japanese Rope Bondage, which can be very beautiful. The intricate knot and rope work takes years to Master properly, but it is truly an art form. Many Shibari(Rope Bondage) practitioners have Their own specific knots and designs that denote who the Dom, or Domme is that did the work.

Many of the bondage designs leave the sub or slave suspended in mid air, held by the ropes. They usually disperse the weight equally across the body so that there is no one place that takes all of the strain. Often, after being bound, the sub or slave is then used, or at least made to get off while tied, and helpless. It is truly an awesome experience. It is somewhat painful at times, to excruciating depending on which pattern is used. Most of the time it is only slightly painful, but thrilling to know you're suspended above the ground about 4 feet, bound, and helpless before your Master or Mistress.

As far as fisting goes, I don't think the body is flexible enough for most to actually fist themselves, due to the angle that must be kept in order for penetration to occur. I could be wrong. There might be someone out there who actually managed to pull it off, but I would have to see it to believe it. I fist my slave about once a month, either vaginally, or anally. Most of the time, I don't bind her while I am doing this. It gives her a chance to adjust, and help make penetration easier.

Also, it must be done slowly, until full penetration is achieved, otherwise you stand the chance of tearing, and internal, or external hemorrhaging is possible. Also, use a good quality lube. Nothing is worse than getting "it" dry LOL. Going slowly allows the vagina, or rectum to adjust, and stretch slowly. Less painful, and less chance of injury.

I hope this helps. If you need further clarification, or have further questions, please feel free to write again.


                                            SINcerely in Leather,
                                            Master Shadow.